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“If you don’t have confidence you will always find a way to lose.”
“At the end of every feeling is nothing, but at the end of every principle is a promise.” — Eric Thomas
While unsuccessful people base everything off their feelings, the 5% make decisions first, regardless of how they feel. When they decide something, that’s what they do, and it doesn’t matter how they feel.
Successful people decide what they’re going to do, they take action regardless of how they feel, and as an end result, feel exceptional because they followed through on their commitment.
Let’s get into the eight fail-proof ways to increase your confidence. 1. Choices
Will this choice help or hurt my confidence?
“It’s in the moments of decision where your destiny is shaped.”
What choices can you start making today that will increase your confidence account?
2. Challenges
The bigger the goals, the bigger the challenges. The moment you go after your biggest goals, obstacles will show up.
“The moment I used my adversity to my advantage, my career exploded.” — Eminem
What challenges have you gone through that have made you stronger and sharpened your perspective?
3. Consistency Consistency is all about character. Can you do what you say you are going to do? Have you developed an identity with yourself that whatever you say your actions follow? People respect those who are consistent and stay the course regardless of what life throws at them.
When you stay consistent, you bring the most powerful force to your side: momentum. The two scariest things in life and business are: Momentum Lack of Momentum
What are 3 areas of your life that require more consistency?
Why do you need to be more consistent in those areas? (Remember, reasons come first, results come second.)
What would your life look like in six months if you stayed consistent?
4. Repetition and Deliberate Practice Deep daily practice is crucial to confidence.
5. Courage
“If you have big goals and dreams don’t expect others to follow you, because you’ll represent the strength, courage and vision they don’t yet have.”
“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
What one action have you been putting off that would change the game for you?
6. Don’t Fear People
Stay fearless in everything you do. The reason most people don’t take risks, live on the edge, or push the envelope is the fear of what others might think of them.
Will Smith said, “Trying to get everybody to like you is the most common chosen road to mediocrity.” Bill Cosby said, “You can’t please everybody so don’t even try. In fact, when you try, the one person you absolutely won’t please is yourself.”
“People will judge you regardless, so be who you wanna be.”
7. Comparing Yourself to Others
The root of all misery is comparison, and if you're constantly comparing yourself to others ...
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“Your only real competition will always be the person in the mirror.”
8. Confident People
Surround yourself with confid...
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There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.” — Unknown
You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you want to elevate your life, shift your circle of influence. Who you associate with is who you become, and who you become determines your future success.
Who is currently doing what you want to be doing at the highest level?
“Imagine you woke up and you were 20 again. You have a laptop and only $1000. What would you do?” What would you do?
The ultimate advantage in life and business is the Power of Anticipation. You must be able to anticipate what’s coming and what to expect.
The moment you stop talking to people who challenge you is the moment you are most vulnerable to complacency.
The strongest predictor of sales success in a study of 1000 sales personnel in a large US based international company was: Their relationship skills. Their social capital (who they knew).
Here are six benefits of networking and shifting your circle of influence: Shared Wisdom:
Opportunities:
Increased Income and Influence:
Shortened Learning Curve:
“I learned how to become wealthy because I asked the right questions when I was broke.” — Mark Cuban
Bigger (And Better) Profile:
“Always give more than you think is reasonable. Most people hold back five to 10 percent because they’re afraid they might be taken advantage of. They’re afraid to go over the top, or set themselves apart with the fear of possibly looking foolish. Whether it’s giving gifts, taking somebody out to dinner, or something as simple as opening the door, go above and beyond what others expect. This philosophy holds true to every area of your life.”
Lower S tress, Heightened Awareness:
The Power of Association Associations may mean being around the people who can make your success happen.
Here's a good test to determine if your associations could be sabotaging your success: Have you told them about your goals or desires to improve? If not, why not? If you have, did they laugh, downplay, or disregard your dreams, goals, and vision?
No one else is responsible for your success.
If you think mentorship is expensive, try mediocrity.
