Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

by Steve Harvey

2. Be Confident. Don’t let your brain go into overdrive and

Be You.

4. Be Elegant and Graceful.

5. Be Honest.

6. Be Patient.

7. Be an Adult.

1. Learn about his favorite things.

2. Be firm on your non-negotiables.

3. Keep your standards high.

4. Lay the foundation for a friendship.

5. Set the tone for strong, clear communication.

1. Recognize him for the little things.

2. Visit each other’s houses of

3. Explore something new together. By now, I’m sure you’ve done dinner and a movie

Be observant. You’ve mostly seen his cool and suave side, but

5. Allow him to be there for

Flags on the Play

Flag 5: You only meet when it’s convenient for his schedule. • Flag 4: He has peculiar phone habits, including suddenly hanging up, persistently ignoring

Flag 3: He refuses to allow you to meet his friends and loved ones.

Flag 2: He is very evasive about his past. You don’t need to know about his detention streak in third grade, but by this point you SHOULD know major details in his background, such as a divorce or children from a previous relationship. • Flag 1: He ignores you in public and does not display affection. Be Aware!

Introduce him to one or two key people in your inner circle.

2. Talk about your sexual history.

3. Let him into your world.

Know where you stand.

1. Will you regret not taking

2. Will you resent your man if you choose him over the job? Ladies, if there is any inkling in you that you may

3. Are you open to a long-distance relationship?

Is there enough trust in the relationship for a long-distance arrangement?

5. Is he willing to move to your new

1. Is he chasing a dream or a crapshoot?

2. What do his actions say?

3. But what if he’s a diamond in the rough?

4. Will you be an asset or a distraction?

5. Can you wait? He’s got just six months left in his executive training

6. Are you willing to be his biggest cheerleader?

You and your man have always had a great relationship in the bedroom.

Find out what’s REALLY going on. Stress is real. Having a demanding boss, worrying about an elderly relative, or co-parenting a child with a contentious

Do you really need to talk about it? Ladies, I’ve told you that nothing scares us more than you beginning a conversation with “We need to talk.”

Support him. Just knowing that the woman in our life has our back is sexier than any lingerie you could ever wear. When your man is down and out, give him a call to let him know you have his back. If he’s having a busy day,

Ensure that his lack of performance is not medical. Ladies, you know that a man doesn’t like to admit when he’s hurt or not on top of his game. Before you assume that his uninterest in sex is personal, find out

Exercise together. If he took your advice, visited the doctor, and he now has to shed a few pounds, use this opportunity to work out together. There’s nothing sexier than sweating and building

Spice it up. When’s the last time that a Friday night didn’t just involve you both falling asleep on the couch watching a movie?

Pick up some new lingerie. Yes, ladies some of us men do like a well-placed bustier or a thigh-high stocking that will have us singing “My, My, My” like Johnny Gill.

Make time for an afternoon delight.

Sometimes we just like our cookies at a different time.

Plan a getaway. Sometimes we just need to get away from it all. Plan a nice weekend away with your man at a cozy bed-and-breakfast or a relaxing mountain lodge. And if you can’t afford to physically get away, you

Break out the pots and pans. When’s the last time you made him his favorite meal?

Make it a kid-free zone. Give your favorite babysitter a call and plan for one night with just you and him without the worries of homework, Little League, and dance recitals. As a father, I know

Spend time with a well-seasoned couple. There’s nothing better than talking with an older couple who have been together for twenty, thirty, forty, or even fifty years or more.

Reclaim your home as your sanctuary. I know that many two-income couples are disconnected because they are simply overworked and so much of that work time bleeds into your quality time at home. For example, this quarter is simply insane for both of you at work. It’s been weeks since either one of you has worked less than a fourteen-hour day. How in the world can you even imagine a regular