Building a Non-Anxious Life

by John Delony

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believe other people’s lives are made worse by my having needs. I sometimes find myself thinking others are worse off because I’m around. If you get nothing else from this book, know this: You are not a burden.

making friendships a priority,

where people are,

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people to serve.

fully seen, heard, and known,

still loved.

open hands.

neurophysiological

pair-bond

in the way.

overwhelmed with information.

My fists were clenched

to be able to offer or receive love.

what I was doing wasn’t working.

consistent.

discipline—doing

I don’t w...

keep your covenants.

choose the lower position

seek to meet your spouse’s needs.

I’m super-awkward.

Show up.

how someone’s doing

Often silence and presence

strong-but-kindhearted

presence

you love, you give.

seek to serve.

appreciated and safe.

choose the backseat.

putting others’ needs and preferences before your own can

place of strength and joy,

chronic stress.

grinding

chooses connection, even when it’s hard.

For some extra income,

we didn’t own much of anything.

steady diet of cortisol and adrenaline,

constant supply of yeses.

danger of getting laid off,

I had no freedom.

freedom

much more local.

give away our lives in exchange for the promise o...

living their lives for other people.

Money

He was done.

freedom