The Peacemaker

by Ken Sande

whenever they talked with each other, he asked God to help him speak to her with genuine love and gentleness.

continually. As she compared his behavior to John’s unfailing kindness in the face of her betrayal, she began to realize what a terrible mistake she had made.

Whether Karen came back to him or not, John’s decision to keep doing what was right honored God. His behavior was also a powerful witness to his children about the love and forgiveness of Christ.

doing what is right—even in the face of unjust treatment—is always the safest path to walk.

Recognize Your Limits

Even when you continue to do what is right, some people may adamantly refuse to admit you are right or to live at peace with you. This is why Paul wrote, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Rom. 12:18).

remember that you cannot force others to do what is right.

It is easier to accept your limits if you have a biblical view of success.

The world asks, “What results have you achieved?” God asks, “Were you faithful to my ways?”

If you have done all that you can to be reconciled to someone, you have fulfilled your duty and are a success in God’s eyes. Let him take it from there.

Although his results may come more slowly than you desire, they will always be better than anything you could bring about on your own.

Use the Ultimate Weapon

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Here is the ultimate weapon: deliberate, focused love

Sometimes this will require going to them to show them their faults. At other times there may be a need for mercy and compassion, patience, and words of encouragement.

Therefore, in response to God’s love and in reliance on his grace, we commit ourselves to responding to conflict according to the following principles.