Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

by Mark Manson

Meet for coffee get ice cream down the street check out the big swing in the park shopping together at quirky bookstore Salsa class drinks next door afterward walk to neighborhood pizza place video games at your place • Window shopping at local shopping center improv comedy show quick dinner afterward walk around local park • Include dancing if at all possible, as it’s the most sexual date activity you can have. Also, if you two decide to drink, try to drink at the second or last venues/activities. You don't ever want to end up hammered on a date.

The underlying concept to have on a date is that you should try to constantly be leading.

With men it was pretty easy — we’re primarily visually stimulated, and we generally all like similar features (symmetry, certain hip/waist ratio, large breasts, etc.) But with women, you may as well throw shit at a dartboard because that’s about as far as things were getting.

One new conclusion in arousal research these days is that female arousal is somewhat narcissistic in nature. Women are turned on by being wanted, by being desired. (Note: Men are as well, although since female arousal is affected more by psychological stimuli than physical stimuli on average, this is far more important for female arousal.)

What they want is to be desired. An unhinged desire. A passionate and uncontrollable desire. They want to be desired to the point that a man completely loses awareness and self-control.

I’m going to say this point-blank: getting physical with women, and getting physical quickly and comfortably, is ultimately the difference between having a lot of female friends, and having a lot of girlfriends and dates.

Being physical with women is by far the most integral piece of seduction and dating women. If you have it, you will constantly have options.

Non-Accidental Eye Contact: When in doubt, assume it’s not accidental. Humans are programmed to look at and focus on whatever they’re either curious about or what they find attractive. If she’s looking at you even 10% more than the average stranger, then she’s at least somewhat curious/interested in you.