Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

by Mark Manson

Instead of asking her a question about herself, you guess the answer to your question and then state it. Here are some examples: “Where are you from?” translates to: “You look like a California girl.” “What do you do for work?” translates to: “You seem to be a creative person. I bet your job is interesting."

The only thing people love more than talking about themselves is hearing about themselves. But

These will sometimes come across as random. But that’s because they are — they’re whatever thoughts are popping into your head at the moment. It’s better to be random and interesting than predictable and boring.

Don’t be afraid to just blurt something out.

This works because unlike questions, statements require no investment from the other person. You can

say whatever you want and there’s no implicit expectation for her to generate conversation as well.

When you simply ask a girl questions, you aren’t giving any information about yourself, so it’s harder for her to trust you or build rapport.

But if you simply state a fact about yourself and then talk about it, you are now sharing yourself and giving her a

chance to chime in with her in...

whoever is asking the questions is sub-communicating a desire to learn more about the other, i.e., interest, i.e., they’re attracted to them.

Endless Conversation Topics:

In every topic of conversation, there are countless opportunities to jump off onto other topics — there are countless word associations to be made.

Any and all of these topics will be relevant and interesting to the conversation. If you don’t already do this, it’s a habit you need to ingrain in yourself

Conversations only end when one person says something to which the other person has no jump off points.

Storytelling:

There are three main points of a story arc:

Set Up:

The set up is exactly that: you’re setting the scene or the context for what you’re about to say.

Content/Conflict:

After setting up what you’re going to talk about, you get into the actual content. This

can also be the “conflict” in your story. Whatever it is, it’s something that causes tension and expectancy. The content of your story needs to be intriguing and hook peo...

If you don’t build much tension with the content of your stories, you will find people losing interest or get the ...

Resolution: The resolution releases the tension from the conflict or content.

closure for a generic story.

Here’s an example of a story with a setup, content/conflict, and a resolution: When I was in college, my first roommate had a funny habit whenever he got drunk. He’d basically turn into a narcoleptic — he’d spontaneously fall asleep

in

strange places and at random mome...

Well, literally the first night I knew this guy, he and I go out to some orientation party. We meet a couple girls and go back to their dorm with them. He and I are totally drunk and I notice he’s kind of stopped talking to his girl and is dozing off in the corner. Kind of weird, but it was like 3 AM, so whatever. Suddenly, he says he’s going to go and gets up and leaves. I think nothing of it until I go home, wake up the next morning and he’s still not

back. Hours pass and I start getting worried (Content/Conflict). It turns

Notice that I allude to the conclusion in the beginning of my story.

Relating and Connecting:

The final goal of a successful conversation is to actually make a personal connection with the woman you’re talking to.

When you are talking to a woman, there are only two real subjects of conversation: her and you.

This uncovering of identity is what creates the sense of a “connection.”

The greater the connection you create, the more she’ll want to spend time with you and vice-versa.

Making a connection requires three steps: 1) being open about yourself, 2) getting her to be open about

herself, and 3) relating to each other’s experiences.

Your passions and favorite things to do.

• Your dreams, ambitions, life goals. • The best/worst things that have happened to you. • Your childhood, family life, and upbringing.

Now, go back to each item you wrote down and talk about it to yourself for one minute. Try to be as detailed and honest as possible.

Most men feel a bit vulnerable when talking about these topics, especially to women. That’s the point.

Be willing to share any part of yourself to anyone at any time and on any level. You have nothing to lose by sharing yourself.

What you’ll actually find is when you share something deeper and personal about yourself, it will be

genuine and she’ll immediately respond to that by being genuine herself.

Ideally, sharing these aspects of yourself will encourage her to share them in herself. You want to get her to talk about her passions, her ambitions, her best experiences and her most vulnerable experiences.

These are the topics of conversation that will make you stand out. Why? Because

she knows you. Not your favorite sports team. Not the party you went to last week, but you.

Focus on what you find funny to you personally, and don’t be afraid to share that with the women you meet.

If they laugh, then great! If they don’t, then chances are it wasn’t going to work anyway.

drawing connections between two seemingly unrelated ideas or objects. There are a number of ways to do this, but at its core, humor is a creative activity and,