Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®: Dynamic techniques for turning Fear, Indecision and Anger into Power, Action and Love

by Susan Jeffers

It’s all an adventure, no matter which way I turn.”

They truly live in a no-lose world.

Finding out what you don’t like is, paradoxically, as valuable as finding out what you do like.

Each

Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.

perhaps the “lucky” ones in life are those who have been forced to face things in their lives that we all hope we will never have to face—things such as losing a job, the death of a loved one, divorce, bankruptcy, illness.

security is not having things; it’s handling things.

There is no such thing as a false start if you are seriously committed to advancement.

not only does talking bring valuable information, it clarifies your intention to have it happen! Intention is a powerful tool in creating something you want in your life.

It is important to remember that goals constantly change as you go through life, and you have to keep reassessing them.

At least you are beginning to pay attention to who you are. Allow yourself confusion in the searching process. It is through confusion that you finally come to clarity.

my subconscious mind had known. It had overridden my conscious, logical mind, which had said, “Don’t deviate from your plan” and “You can’t handle this job.”

if I had chosen to remain a therapist in the mental-health clinic, that choice also would have brought me rich opportunities for experiencing life in a new and different way. There was no right or wrong decision, just different ones.

Lighten up. We live in a world where most people take themselves and their decisions very seriously. I have news for you. Nothing is that important.

Start thinking about yourself as a lifetime student at a large university.

Your curriculum is your total relationship with the world you live in, from the moment you’re born to the moment you die. Each experience is a valuable lesson to be learned.

It really doesn’t matter.

lighten up! Whatever happens as a result of your decision, you’ll handle it!

once the decision is made, let the picture go.

If you see the outcome of a decision as looking a certain way, you will increase the likelihood of missing other opportunities.

the unexpected opportunities can create more of value than your original picture.

If you are focused on “the way it’s supposed to be,” you might miss the opportunity to enjoy the way it is or to have it be wonderful in a total...

2. Accept total responsibility for yo...

When you can find the opportunity in any decision, it is much easier to accept the responsibility for making

Don’t protect, correct.

important to commit yourself to any decision you make and give it all you’ve got. But if it doesn’t work out, change it!

Many of us are so invested in making the “right” decision that even if we find we don’t like the path we have chosen...

there are those who keep flitting from place to place, using “change it” as an excuse for noncommitment. I’m not talking about that, and you’ll know the difference within yourself.

many people who stay locked in unsatisfactory situations that no longer work for them because they’ve invested so much and it would be a shame not to continue.

Why invest more, if it’s no longer paying off? Remember—the quality of your life is at stake!

an excellent model for changing your dire...

Each time the plane strayed off course, the system corrected

pilot explained that they would arrive in Hawaii on time in spite of “having been in error 90 percent of the time.”

the path from here to where we want to be starts with an error, which we correct, which becomes the next error, which we correct and that be...

the only time we are truly on course is that moment in the zigzag when we actual...

the trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision; it’s learning when to correct! My concep...

inner clues that help you know when it is time to correct. The two most obvious are confusion and dissatisfaction.

an upset in your life is beneficial, in that it tells you that you are off course in some way

Physical pain is easily seen as beneficial, even though it can be very uncomfortable. It is an obvious symptom that something is wrong with your body.

Mental pain is just as much a “blessing,” because it is telling you that something is wrong with the way your life is going.

The pain is simply saying, “Hey, that’s not it!”

if you haven’t made any mistakes lately, you must be doing something wrong.

You are taking no risks—nor are you enjoying the “goodies” life has to offer. What a waste!

shift from being afraid of making a mistake to being afraid of not making a mistake. If I am not making any mistakes, I can be sure I am not learning and growing.

When you consider that mistakes are an integral part of living, it is amazing how we are taught to think that we must be perfect.

You are not going to succeed in everything you attempt in life. That’s guaranteed. In fact, the more you do in life, the more chance there is to not succeed in some things.

Using the Off Course / Correct Model, you can now have a new freedom in flying.

Have you made any mistakes lately? I hope so!

Each choice simply produces a different experience. Slowly you will be able to apply this concept to larger and larger decisions. Put signs in your home and office that say IT DOESN’T REALLY MATTER to remind yourself when you are being needlessly obsessive.

put signs in your home and office that say SO WHAT! I’LL HANDLE IT! If things don’t work out the way you want, so what! What’s the big deal, anyway? This reminder will help you lighten up about life as you learn you can handle whatever happens after you’ve made your decision.