The Identity Conversation looks inward: it’s all about who we are and how we see ourselves. How does what happened affect my self-esteem, my self-image, my sense of who I am in the world? What impact will it have on my future? What self-doubts do I harbor? In short: before, during, and after the difficult conversation, the Identity Conversation is about what I am saying to myself about me.
Identity, Feelings, and What Happened (Facts to suit your feeelings / identity) all overlap. When hear something that does not fit with your identity / facts, emotions are triggered
