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Kara King
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December 28 - December 28, 2022
A lot of men use women. They use us for sex, money, a ride, clothes, free dinners, a place to live. You name it, they’re gonna drain it! If you suspect a man is using you, he probably is. Don’t allow men to use you. Men use our emotions as leverage to get what they want. Control your reactions to your emotions. Especially in the beginning and in the end of relationships. You do this to maintain the upper hand and
so they can no longer use your emotions against you. Women can prey on a man’s desire for sex. (The Power of the Pussy) Men need us. We don’t need them. Use this to your advantage. Flirt, but do not pursue. Put your pussy on a pedestal. Don't give it away easily. If you like him, don’t have sex with him. Control yourself. Wait two months or more before having sex. Don’t give men blow jobs! Deal with pressure to have sex by not allowing men to guilt you. Flip the guilt around to retain the control. Test your man with the Prince Charming Test before allowing him to have sex with you.
Use PEAK to your fullest advantage!!! Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want, but be prepared to walk away if he won’t give it to you. Enjo...
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Confidence is king. The only way you can begin to deal with men is through sheer confidence. If you love yourself and you value yourself, the men in your life will too.
Low self-esteem is a waste of energy. Whether you have low self-esteem or not, you’re still the same person with the same flaws.
pretend you LOVE YOURSELF.
The reason is because suburban culture is cruel and urban culture just does not give a fuck what anyone thinks!
You mean we don’t have to cower down to bashing ourselves and each others' imperfections at every opportunity? We can reject it? What a relief! What liberation!
You see, before my transfer to this school, all I saw was everything wrong with myself. In my mind, every imperfection
I was allowing them to make me feel that way! It was my choice to believe it, as much as it was my choice to reject
CHOOSE to allow people to bring them down. You can CHOOSE to let it bother you... or you can CHOOSE to tell them to fuck off!
The greatest part about gaining confidence is the tremendous relief you feel after becoming free of people’s opinions.
They’ll hang on to the one guy that tells her she’s ugly, stupid or fat and take his opinion as the ultimate truth! This is a tactic used by insecure men, so be careful.
His goal is to make her feel so bad about herself that she eventually believes no other man will want her.
His insurance against this loss is to put her down so much, that she becomes paralyzed by insecurities.
has everything to do with being you and not apologizing for
They know they are unique in their talents and they embrace their individuality.
If someone points out their flaws, they don’t obsess over it.
No one cares if you think you’re UGLY! You’re the only one worried about it. If someone does worry about it, then fuck ‘em and keep moving.
Showing low self-esteem is a sure way to send a bad message to a man. When you put yourself down in front of a man, not only is he turned off, but it’s annoying.
I’m an easy target. I will be easy to use. I’m going to be easy to get into bed, because I don’t value myself. I don’t realize what I have, therefore I will give it away easily. You can play me and I won’t mind. I’ll forgive you easily because I don’t think I’m worthy of respect.
pointing out your flaws is ugly and unattractive to men. Stop it!
All in an attempt to conceal them from the world, but ironically, we end up pointing them out!
Even worse, I was calling attention to my low self esteem.
Once I got my confidence, I stopped doing that. Now guess what people tell me? They tell me I have a pretty smile!
They don’t look at you and think, “Wow, her nose is big and her teeth are crooked. She must be about 20 pounds overweight.”
We notice all of the little things wrong with men and with ourselves.
Don’t mention anything negative about yourself to anyone EVER. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re beautiful. (Even if you don’t think you are, just do it every day until you at least become comfortable with your image.) Compare yourself to someone uglier than you, and then give thanks that you’re prettier than that person is. (I know that’s mean, but sometimes you need to change your perspective.) Don’t point out your flaws. Not even to yourself. Just ignore the things you hate, rather than staring at them in the mirror all day!
Don’t say stupid, annoying things like: “I hate myself,” or the classic, “I’m so fat.” Especially if you weigh 130 lbs! Nothing annoys men more than the skinny girl that constantly complains about how fat she is. Never call yourself stupid. Make a list of all the good things you have and from now on only point out these things. When you feel bad about yourself, take out the list of good things and read it.
It’s important we know the difference.
She will only talk to the “perfect” guys, ignoring all of the others. She may even go as far as being rude or cruel to men she feels are “beneath” her. This only limits her choices and makes finding a good man
approaching you. It took him a lot of courage, give him that much respect and dismiss him politely. She looks in the mirror and thinks she looks better than other women do. She makes fun of other women or always notices negative things in other people. Pretends to be perfect, but deep inside she uses the conceit as a mask for low self-esteem or even worse, self-hatred. She usually ends up hurt in her relationships because she’s always looking for a “perfect” mate. We all know there is no such thing, but she keeps striving for perfection, only to end up disappointed. She refuses to grasp the
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Gives a man respect, even if she isn’t interested in him. She won’t make him ...
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to approach her. She’ll dismiss him in a polite manner. She looks in the mirror and sees a beautiful woman. Compliments other women, sees the beauty in other women because she doesn’t feel threatened by them. Gives a man an initial chance, even if he isn’t the finest guy in the room because she isn’t vain. Therefore, she isn’t pushing away potentially good men and limiting her choices. Knows she isn’t perfect, so she doesn’t expect perfection from a m...
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She’ll have healthier relationships with men because she is accepting of her own faults; then she can be accepting of a mate’s faults. Will stay away from conceited men or men with low self-esteem. Will...
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Beauty comes more from the inside than it does the outside. The prettiest
person in the world can ruin their beauty by having an ugly inside.
Confidence can be heard verbally, seen physically, and felt emotionally.
That negativity in your mind is flowing out of you on every level. Just as confidence flows out of you on all of those levels. The people around you can feel and see your confidence. It is a HUGE part of who you are.
Some women will find this chapter not to be an issue, while others may struggle to ditch the self-hating, self-bashing mind set.
there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You do not have to live your life looking down on yourself. If you work at improving this you WILL get better, I promise.
What you have to offer are your talents, personality, hobbies, accomplishments, and so on.
Every person has multiple things to offer. They vary from person to person. I have stuff to offer which makes me valuable, and it’s different from what you have to offer, which makes you valuable. You need to figure out what you have to offer.
Educated or going to school Have a car You have your own place
A career or great job You’re a kick ass Mom You’re a very loving and compassionate person Great cook Keep a clean house Funny or fun to be around You go to church You’re from a great family You’re faithful, you never cheat on a mate You have great friends
We are initially drawn to people because of physical attraction, but we stay around when we become attracted to who they are and what they have to offer.
Educated Funny I can cook I’m a great mother / very loving I love to dance I’m faithful I own my own business I’m very spiritual I have my own car I never lie I’m bilingual I have a great extended family
You shouldn’t! You should NEVER settle for less. From now on, you’re going to walk around thinking, “I’m special and any man would be lucky to have me.” If you don’t believe it, say it to yourself everyday until you do. You can start out pretending, but eventually you’ll have to truly believe it.
From this moment forward you are to look at yourself as if you are a prize to be won.
Honest Dependable Good Looking Educated Tall Generous Good Sense of Humor Has a job
