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by
Kara King
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December 28 - December 28, 2022
Step 1) Put yourself into a position of needing to be rescued or saved or you can just wait until an opportunity arises. Examples of Situations Requiring Rescue: Car breaks down Locked out of car Need a ride to work for a few days Need the car jumped Need your car fixed Need your lawn mowed
Need someone to give your Mom a ride
Step 2) You’re going to contact your man to come help you. First things first, call him at a time when you know he can talk. Like, don’t call the poor guy in the middle of his weekly meeting at work and expect him to pick up. However, if you call him at a good time, he better pick up the phone. When a man really likes a woman, he’ll pick up her calls, return her messages, or call her back quickly. If he sends you to voice mail, doesn’t answer and/or doesn’t call you back right away, don’t make excuses for him. Take it for what it is: Proof that he’s not genuinely interested in you.
Step 3) Observe. How does he handle the situation? Does he offer to help? Does he sound concerned? Does he run to your rescue? Does he tell you he has to go and can’t help right now? Does he tell you to call someone else instead? What does he do? How does he ACT? What do his ACTIONS say?
Bottom line: Is he coming to your rescue? When a man likes a woman a lot, he will want to rush to her side to be the man that solves her problems. Only you can observe his behaviors and make that decision.
Patience is a virtue very few men possess these days. So, when you find a man who’s willing to wait patiently for you, this speaks a lot about his character as a man. It lets a man know that you won’t be used for sex. It weeds out all of the men that are just trying to use you for sex. It makes the man you really like respect you. It makes the guy you like work harder, because he can’t figure out what it takes to get you.
It’s FUN to watch men jump through hoops to try to get you. More importantly, it puts the power in your hands. By not having sex, you're the one in control.
60-day rule, he’s going to stick it out just for the sex. If you tell your friends, there’s a chance they might tell on you! This 60-day rule is your secret.
Don’t feel guilty about this, ladies! This is how men look at us, so we’re just flipping it around and using their own tactics against them. Ha Ha! Start categorizing men from now
Rule #1: Hoes are there for YOU. You aren’t there for them or for their entertainment, so keep your hoes in control. Rule #2: Don’t catch feelings. Don’t get emotionally involved or emotionally attached. Rule #3: Hoes are secrets. Keep them on the down low. They’re separate from your normal life. None of the other men in your life need to know you have a fuck
buddy. Believe me, most of the men you date probably have one too, and they won’t be telling you about it! Rule #4: Don’t feel bad about this!!! I know some of you are feeling guilty just thinking about this. Stop it! Men do this to us all the time. You have to be able to move past the guilt. Society dictates we should be mindful little women, while men run around acting like animals. Fuck that. As long as you are practicing safe sex, you’re being responsible, and you’re a single woman; why feel guilty? It’s YOUR life and YOUR vagina. If you aren’t committed to anyone, then you aren’t
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This is when you need to get everything out on the table; slowly, clearly, and sweetly. It’s time to discuss monogamy, the status of your relationship, or whatever it is you desire from him. If you want this man to be your boyfriend and
Women have PMS, but men have PEAK and PES. PES is Post Ejaculation Syndrome. It's that little attitude change they get after they bust a nut. You know, when they become little assholes because they got what they wanted.
It’s during PEAK that we have the most power.
If he denies you what you want, then you tell him “access denied” and move on to the next man.
Never assume that a man knows what you want or need.
Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t sit quietly with an attitude or make slick comments in an attempt to get him to realize there’s a problem.
method of communication is almost like hypnotizing men, they lose focus and easily give in to your every whim. That pussy is powerful!
Always maintain that sweet, sexy tone and stray far away from a bitchy, nagging tone. I understand sometimes you just want to curse them out and you just need to
don’t pay attention to our hints, our passive aggressive behavior, our attitudes, and our clues as to what our beef
BEFORE you have sex, during PEAK. However, don’t ask him to be your boyfriend. Simply and politely make it known you’re not willing to move forward without that commitment.
even if it’s emotional and not sexual, you should probably cut the hoes off.
really important, as a woman, to learn to be in control of your sexual encounters. Having the “sexual upper hand” means having control over the relationship.
Don’t allow yourself to get into a situation where you can’t control yourself.
Many women have this problem. If you’re one of them, please know that you’re not alone. Your inability to control yourself around men could stem from a variety of subconscious reasons such as low self esteem, childhood trauma, abuse, loneliness, alcoholism, sexual addiction, depression…etc.
They get very upset and offended, especially if they really like
Be careful what you say around men. Don’t ever tell anyone how many partners you’ve
DO NOT HAVE ORAL SEX WITH MEN. The second you go down on a man, you have just
Oral sex should be even harder to get than regular sex. When you find a good man and he’s everything you ever wanted, save the oral sex for him. When first dating a man, you shouldn’t be having any
Don’t lose control! You have to be the one to get upset!
YOU are the one that is “disappointed” in HIM for pressuring YOU.
Giving up your precious pussy, oral sex, a hand job, or anything sexually stimulating to a man easily; without making him earn it is the biggest mistake
and say whatever is necessary to flip the guilt back to him. You must do this to retain the control.
I’m not saying you have to do any of these things. These are just suggestions. I’m not advising that you do anything on this list, if you’re not comfortable with doing it. This list was put together as a suggestion tool. You may
Nails. Get your nails done on a regular basis. Look at other women of your same complexion. That will help you
Toes. Do your toes to match. You don’t necessarily have to go all out and get a pedicure, but at least get your toes painted the same color
Shoes. Most men love a woman in heels. Designer heels will get you far with a man. You have to be careful with shoes, if it looks too unique or too outrageous, men will probably think it looks corny (that goes for everything, not just shoes).
Strut. Every man loves a woman with a sexy strut. Utilize your hips when you walk. Walk like a model, without looking like you're trying to walk like a model. Always walk confidently and comfortably. Practice your walk, if you need to. If you’ve never worn heels but you like the way they look and you think they’re sexy,
Hair. Get your hair done in a salon, unless you’re good at doing your own hair. The magic a great hair stylist can do to your head is worth the money for the upkeep. Hair is a sexual stimulant to a lot of men. The men all agreed to preferring long hair (shoulder length or longer). The men interviewed said they don’t mind short hair on a woman, if she has a pretty face to carry the look, but in general they are stimulated by long hair.
Make Up. The worst thing you can do with make up is over do it. If you cake on the base, stop it! You’re better off wearing nothing at all. Don’t over do the eye shadow. Men like it natural. Try to do your make up to where it looks natural, but it makes your features pop out. Practice putting it on, take pictures, see what
Fake Lashes. If you’re brave enough and you really want to be a vixen, wear fake lashes. They can really make a world of difference, especially for special events.
Work Out. Ugh, the dreaded dieting and exercise! It doesn’t hurt to work out and eat healthy. There, I said it. If you need to shape up, just do it! I’m doing it,
I’ve never had a perfect body. I have always been a chunky girl. My skinniest weight was 155 lbs and I’m only five feet, four inches tall. Regardless of my little gut, flabby arms and cellulite on my thighs;
doesn’t hurt to look your best.
I always embraced my figure,
Tits. This is the hardest one for me to write because it is sexist and rude. However, I’m here to be honest with you and the men I interviewed all agreed on this.
Hygiene. The things I’m going to say here should go without saying. However, the men asked me to include this information, so apparently they feel it needs to be said. If it doesn’t apply to you, please don't take offense.
Observe. One thing you should ALWAYS do is take notes about what you find attractive in another woman.
More importantly, they do what they want to do and stand by it with firm confidence. They never back down from their choices. They don’t allow
men to dictate their style or personality. They are who they are and if a man doesn’t like it, oh well! Then, after they do all that, they go out on
