Carole’s Comments (group member since Oct 19, 2016)

Carole’s comments from the Navigating Indieworld Discussing All Things Indie group.

So right, Carmel. "We see things not as they are, but as WE are",

Alex wrote: "I like the stars, Dale, though I find it far too cold to go outside and enjoy them.

Carole, you have such a great way of looking at things. It's a shame your husband has to deal with this, and a ..."
I was prepared my whole life to handle it. We didn't know about depression in the "old" days. My mom was depressed and had trouble functioning some times. My grandmother lived with us and we knew when she was in a sad state, we just had to wait for her to come out of it. It was just accepted as part of life. My father was a concentration camp survivor- so between my mom and grandmother, we were encouraged not to give him any grief- He had enough hurt and loss to sustain him for a lifetime- so we all bounced around their moods. I didn't even realize what depression was until I was much older- married for years and realized my husband had the same issues as my mom. I finally got the memo, it wasn't about being in a "bad" mood. They saw things differently- a anthill was a volcano. I'm not saying everybody has this. But, I learned what someone thinks is nothing, may be really something to someone else and the worse thing you can do is not respect that. I think I didn't understand the scope of my dad's losses until the morning after I lost him- Then I saw his world with new clarity. So, even though I live with someone who is depressed, I may not feel his pain, I know it is real for him and I understand I have to treat it that way. If someone hurts themselves physically we collectively sympathize with their pain. Some hurts are on the inside and we must be as compassionate.

I love the night sky- It looks like velvet- the kids come over and we all stargaze- then, Alex we drink hot chocolate.

My husband gets that way every winter. It's hard when you know the person you love is struggling and there are no easy answers. Sometimes it feels like there is an oppressive layer hanging over him, and me, by association. I have learned to live with it the way Mr. Bennet talks about his wife's nerves. I think of the line often "I have a high respect for your nerves. They are my old friends. I have heard you mention them with consideration these twenty years at least."

Sometimes it's not about getting over, so much as embracing and pushing through.

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voted!

YUP!! That's the plan!!

That's great!!

shared!

Thanks,Kay! I always forget about Pinterest.

Congrats, Jean!

Nice. Faith!!!

That's sweet!

I tell my kids that everyday- in everything they do.

Congrats, Amy. I hope it pushes people to read it. I love your books.

It's all subjective- One person may love something, another may hate it. Just because a critic loves a book, doesn't mean it's good or bad- it just appealed to them.

Never give up!!

I know!!! That's so true. He's got one star that went up the day the book came out- no review- I wish they had to say something.

I sweating this one more than any of the others!! His rating just dipped a bit on Goodreads. Three two stars- Only one left a review. I'm not bothered by it- but I wish they would explain what they didn't like.