Questions About The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now

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I'm almost 35, is this book still worth reading or will it make me regret my lost 20s?

Genetai I know this question is old but I feel the answers might be a bit misleading for those that see it now.

I'd say you're better off not reading this at 3…moreI know this question is old but I feel the answers might be a bit misleading for those that see it now.

I'd say you're better off not reading this at 35. The tone isn't very positive for 30+. So especially when your goal is to read this to get back on track I'd advice looking for a different book that is not written as specially for your 20s as this book can be quite depressing, and in particular when you're older.

However, if you have your life together and would like insight into the 20s period in ones life, maybe for your (future) child, I do recommend you to pick it up.(less)

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Ok, so relationships shouldn't be aimless. I remember a couple of stories but not really any concrete advice. Do you guys remember?

Kelsey An Upmarket Conversation
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Marriage is one of the most important decisions people make in their lives. Twentysomethings should be ch…moreAn Upmarket Conversation
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Marriage is one of the most important decisions people make in their lives. Twentysomethings should be choosy about the right things when they can still think clearly about claiming their lives (rather than scrambling when they reach their thirties and wedding invitations start pouring in).

Picking Your Family
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Your spouse's family will define the decades ahead. Choose wisely.

The Cohabitation Effect
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Couples who move in together before getting engaged have higher divorce rates. If you must move in together before getting engaged, one way to avoid lock-in* is by making sure that both parties have a clear understanding of each other's commitment level prior to moving in. Regularly check in with yourself and make sure you're not just staying because it's more convenient than leaving.

On Dating Down
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The stories you tell about yourself affect who you let yourself date. Hold yourself to a higher standard.

Being in Like
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Some research says that the more similar two people's personalities are, the more likely they are to be satisfied with their relationship.

*Lock-in is defined as "the decreased likelihood to search for other options, or change to another option, once an investment in something has been made."(less)

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