The Serial Monogamist
In the world of Tinder, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Match, cute guys are right at our fingertips (pun intended.) We talk to countless guys about our majors, our hobbies, and we flaunt our good qualities. We only post the pictures that have our best smiles, we wear clothes that highlight our best assets, and we try to attract the right guy.
We do our best to get ourselves Mr. Perfect (who just so happens to be a doctor....)
On our way to Mr. Perfect, we sure have had some jerks along the way. From what my girls have told me and what I've dealt with myself, I could write MANY more books about the bad boy, the cheater, and the guy who never called after sex.
And yet, after these rough dates and sleepless nights, we get right back on Tinder. We subject ourselves to the bad dates, the endless tears, and the cookie dough therapy. Why? Because we still believe in love.
Who doesn't love being in love? There is nothing like the security of a relationship. I like the first dates, I enjoy the first meeting with the parents, and I like the security of having a guy to turn to. It's nice to go to someone when there's a problem, or after a bad day.
When these relationships that I invest myself in crash and burn, it's definitely hard on me. But I am a serial monogamist. I try not to let one failed attempt at love stop me from being happy and I jump right back in.
I cry for about a week, and then I head back out the town. I try not to let the sadness consume me and I focus on my goal: finding the right one. The wrong one has made his appearance more than once and at this point I am more than ready to leave him in the dust.
Tinder and Plenty of Fish have more than helped at making jumping back in easier and has led me to some great guys. You all know how it works! Text for a while, set a date, go on a few more dates, and then decide if you're ready to take the plunge back into monogamy.
But is Tinder, dating apps, and serial monogamy really helping us find Mr. Right? Was our mom right when she said to STOP texting and start meeting guys the old fashioned way: at bars or through mutual friends? Is OkCupid leading us away from the perfect man and into heartbreak?
As of right now, I'm not sure what the answers are to my own questions. But, I do know one thing is for sure. A few weeks into Tinder and Plenty of Fish will give me some answers (hopefully positive ones) and a few more experiences to share.
If I can leave any of you ladies with advice it's to follow your heart. Is Tinder totally not working for you? Delete your account. Are you coming up empty at bars? Start trying new ways to meet people. Are you ready to stop dating altogether? Then do you.
But as for me, I'll be swiping right and praying for Mr. Right. (At least until Valentines Day.)
We do our best to get ourselves Mr. Perfect (who just so happens to be a doctor....)
On our way to Mr. Perfect, we sure have had some jerks along the way. From what my girls have told me and what I've dealt with myself, I could write MANY more books about the bad boy, the cheater, and the guy who never called after sex.
And yet, after these rough dates and sleepless nights, we get right back on Tinder. We subject ourselves to the bad dates, the endless tears, and the cookie dough therapy. Why? Because we still believe in love.
Who doesn't love being in love? There is nothing like the security of a relationship. I like the first dates, I enjoy the first meeting with the parents, and I like the security of having a guy to turn to. It's nice to go to someone when there's a problem, or after a bad day.
When these relationships that I invest myself in crash and burn, it's definitely hard on me. But I am a serial monogamist. I try not to let one failed attempt at love stop me from being happy and I jump right back in.
I cry for about a week, and then I head back out the town. I try not to let the sadness consume me and I focus on my goal: finding the right one. The wrong one has made his appearance more than once and at this point I am more than ready to leave him in the dust.
Tinder and Plenty of Fish have more than helped at making jumping back in easier and has led me to some great guys. You all know how it works! Text for a while, set a date, go on a few more dates, and then decide if you're ready to take the plunge back into monogamy.
But is Tinder, dating apps, and serial monogamy really helping us find Mr. Right? Was our mom right when she said to STOP texting and start meeting guys the old fashioned way: at bars or through mutual friends? Is OkCupid leading us away from the perfect man and into heartbreak?
As of right now, I'm not sure what the answers are to my own questions. But, I do know one thing is for sure. A few weeks into Tinder and Plenty of Fish will give me some answers (hopefully positive ones) and a few more experiences to share.
If I can leave any of you ladies with advice it's to follow your heart. Is Tinder totally not working for you? Delete your account. Are you coming up empty at bars? Start trying new ways to meet people. Are you ready to stop dating altogether? Then do you.
But as for me, I'll be swiping right and praying for Mr. Right. (At least until Valentines Day.)
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