About Time
I have always been told by family and friends that I have no conception of time. I am either 15 minutes early or a half hour behind schedule.
When it comes to relationships, everyone has opinions about the timing of how things should go. These opinions revolve around three key factors:
1. The sex
2. The relationship
3. The engagement
My parents had a quick engagement and a quicker marriage that led to more than 30 years and a beautiful family. In 1970 that was normal. People that loved each other got married, they had kids, they built a life together.
In 2016, we have different priorities. My own list of goals revolves around masters programs, book sales, and counseling practices. Right behind those goals are aspirations about family, marriage, and a beautiful home. In 2016, what is the timing supposed to look like for matters of the heart?
Do you wait years to be courted so you can focus on your career? Do you jump in and pray for the best? Do you take things step by step or do you follow your passion, and your gut?
My selection usually airs on the side of reckless. My past has flashes of quick choices that I now look back on with regret. Those choices are the reason I hold back, the reason I choose to think before I jump into love, sex, relationships.
That being said, there are other reasons I try and be cautious and slow things down in relationships. Just a few days ago someone made a comment about the quickness of my current relationship.
"It hasn't been very long," was said with an eye roll. It was then followed by, "You should be careful." When I heard it, I could feel myself filtering through my thoughts.
I paused. Maybe she's right! Maybe I am rushing into being happy; maybe I should put my guard back up.
Then a song played on the radio. Taylor Swift's "Ours" spoke exactly what I was thinking. "People throw rocks at things that shine.." is one of the realest statements I've heard in a while. The reality is people want to put you in boxes, they want to control your timing, your relationship, your happiness. And people will always tell you their opinion.
But does the timing really matter? Can you fall in love in a week? A day? A year? My answer is yes. Anything can happen. And the opinions of others can fall to the wayside. They are not apart of your love story or mine.
Going forward, I want to be reckless, free, unhinged. I don't want to hold back and put my guard up because of the opinion of others and my past.
I want to take a step back, look at what I have, and trust.
You may have opinions about this and you might even disagree, but I urge you to think about your love story, your past love stories, and your future. Does timing matter?
Is a couple married for 40 years more in love than a couple that's been together for 6 months? I'm not sure the answer. But I do know that my opinion is the only one that matters to me when dealing with my timing, my happiness, my story.
When it comes to relationships, everyone has opinions about the timing of how things should go. These opinions revolve around three key factors:
1. The sex
2. The relationship
3. The engagement
My parents had a quick engagement and a quicker marriage that led to more than 30 years and a beautiful family. In 1970 that was normal. People that loved each other got married, they had kids, they built a life together.
In 2016, we have different priorities. My own list of goals revolves around masters programs, book sales, and counseling practices. Right behind those goals are aspirations about family, marriage, and a beautiful home. In 2016, what is the timing supposed to look like for matters of the heart?
Do you wait years to be courted so you can focus on your career? Do you jump in and pray for the best? Do you take things step by step or do you follow your passion, and your gut?
My selection usually airs on the side of reckless. My past has flashes of quick choices that I now look back on with regret. Those choices are the reason I hold back, the reason I choose to think before I jump into love, sex, relationships.
That being said, there are other reasons I try and be cautious and slow things down in relationships. Just a few days ago someone made a comment about the quickness of my current relationship.
"It hasn't been very long," was said with an eye roll. It was then followed by, "You should be careful." When I heard it, I could feel myself filtering through my thoughts.
I paused. Maybe she's right! Maybe I am rushing into being happy; maybe I should put my guard back up.
Then a song played on the radio. Taylor Swift's "Ours" spoke exactly what I was thinking. "People throw rocks at things that shine.." is one of the realest statements I've heard in a while. The reality is people want to put you in boxes, they want to control your timing, your relationship, your happiness. And people will always tell you their opinion.
But does the timing really matter? Can you fall in love in a week? A day? A year? My answer is yes. Anything can happen. And the opinions of others can fall to the wayside. They are not apart of your love story or mine.
Going forward, I want to be reckless, free, unhinged. I don't want to hold back and put my guard up because of the opinion of others and my past.
I want to take a step back, look at what I have, and trust.
You may have opinions about this and you might even disagree, but I urge you to think about your love story, your past love stories, and your future. Does timing matter?
Is a couple married for 40 years more in love than a couple that's been together for 6 months? I'm not sure the answer. But I do know that my opinion is the only one that matters to me when dealing with my timing, my happiness, my story.
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