3 Things To Give Up To Get More Of What You Want

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3 Things To Give Up To Get More Of What You Want

In the New Year, we want to think bigger, be more daring, or to even quit some old ways of behaving which don’t work. Here are 3 ways to stop self-sabotage and get more of what you want.

GIVE UP: I can’t
The world’s progress has come from those who think “I can,” while others around them were thinking “I can’t.” If you want your relationship to improve, to lose weight, to become a persuasive speaker on the stage or in the meeting room, or to make your dream vacation come true, you have to find a way to believe you can do what you want to do. Replace “I can’t” with I can and will” and see what happens in 2016.

GIVE UP: That’s not who I am
You might be an introvert, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be more expressive at times or that you can’t learn how to be more sociable in larger groups. You can if you realize that you are who you choose to be, and that opens up a wide range of options. It isn’t smart to say, “I won’t play politics because that’s not who I am” because every company has its own culture or political environment, whether you like it or not. Replace “That’s not who I am,” with “Is it in my best interest to change and grow my capabilities for this situation?”

GIVE UP: My opportunities are limited
I’m not going to tell you your opportunities are not limited because they are. So are mine and everyone else’s—just not nearly as limited as we often tell ourselves. Dr. King, Amelia Earhart, Helen Keller, or anyone else we admire aren’t remembered because they let their limited opportunities keep them from using the opportunities they did have. Maybe you wanted to become a doctor and you didn’t and you feel it’s too late now. Even if it is, it’s not too late for you to discover another dream that’s been patiently waiting for you. Replace “My opportunities are limited,” with “Let me open my eyes and see what opportunities I’ve not seen yet.”