4 Tips on How to Say NO, Even When you Feel Guilty

Do you say Yes more than you want to? Are you angry at yourself when you do because you end up stretched beyond belief?

Well, here are 4 ways to get a grip on saying NO when you want to (even if GUILT comes up)!

1. Think before saying YES!
Often we say YES automatically. We may feel awkward turning someone down and don't want to suffer the consequences--GUILT!

During the holiday time when everyone has too much to do, BE CAREFUL, don't take on more than you need to. Saying NO is saying YES to yourself.

2. What's in it for you?
We all want to be liked but sometimes we turn ourselves into pretzels to do so. Nothing is worth trying to "please" someone at the expense of compromising yourself. Take on another task or commitment if there is something in it for you. If you help out a colleague and give up something important to do so, make sure it's worth your while.

3. Stand your ground
Let's say you say NO. And you get that guilt producing look--what do you do? Cave in? Absolutely not! Just keep saying no, even to yourself. Offer up an excuse of why you can't do it now. (Just remember times when you asked an assertive person to help. If they couldn't do it, they said no graciously). 

4. Say it offering an alternative
Suggest someone else that might help.  That person may really benefit from being asked. Don't exaggerate your self-importance; other people can substitute, just fine.