How to Work Harmoniously with a Younger Boss

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Discovering that you have a younger boss, especially one with less experience than you, can pose a real challenge for some people. Experts predict that this could be something many more of us will have to deal with as millennials are promoted and baby boomers remain in the workforce. 

It’s important to look past the age gap and focus instead on developing a productive and harmonious relationship with your younger boss. Here are some helpful tips for relieving any unease if you’re in a situation where your boss is younger than you:  

Don’t Be Prejudiced

First off, avoid jumping to premature conclusions about your younger boss before you’ve really had a chance to get to know him or her. If you’re open-minded and put a positive spin on things, you’re much more likely to learn from each other and progress toward a valuable working relationship. 

Be Open to What You Can Learn From Your Boss

Don’t assume that they lack knowledge, skills or experience in certain areas simply because of their age. 

Also, try to avoid making any sweeping generalizations about a particular age group, such as Gen Y being entitled and technology-obsessed. Even if you don’t verbalize them, your prejudices will seep through in your attitude — and only encourage others to stereotype you. 

Your boss may have different ways of doing things, so it’s important to remain flexible and willing to try new methods and styles of working. At the end of the day, respect is the most important factor. Realize that your boss wouldn’t be in this position if they weren’t great at what they do. Take the time to get to know them and what they offer, as well as learn how you can best offer support.

Avoid Projecting Insecurity

We all have different skillsets and areas of strength. Your younger boss likely has great managerial skills, while you may be more technically-inclined or possess in-depth knowledge on a niche area. 

Simply because someone is above you in the chain of command doesn’t mean they’re inherently better or more valuable. Try not to get sucked into a hierarchical or competitive mindset. Instead, focus on how you can collaborate, support each other and help drive the company forward in partnership. 

It’s also important to avoid projecting any underlying insecurity about your age. There are likely some areas in which the generational gap reveals itself, whether in terms of language, the latest technology, or pop culture trends. Laugh off any minor hiccups and discomfort. Don’t let them phase you. 

It’s vital to do the following: 

Be yourself.Embrace your age.Avoid acting as something you’re not in an attempt to fit in with a younger crowd. People will see right through you and this is the fastest way to lose your credibility.

Look For Areas of Commonality

Although generational differences can reveal themselves starkly in some scenarios, age isn’t everything. Try to look past this difference, and focus instead on areas of similarity that will help forge a genuine connection with your younger boss. 

An obvious place to start is the fact you work in the same company and industry, meaning you probably share similar values, skills and interests. Focus on the work at hand and areas where you click. 

Don’t shy away from socializing with your boss and other co-workers after hours. If it feels comfortable, this is a great way to create genuine bonds and develop a deeper understanding of one another. Even with widely differing interests, hobbies and peer groups, it’s perfectly possible to connect on a personal level and develop mutual respect. 

Offer Support and Information

Your age and experience is a great source of help to your younger boss, so don’t hold back when it comes to offering your insights. Identify your core assets and let your boss know about the ways you can help. 

You likely have a larger network of contacts, as well as a fountain of knowledge when it comes to historical trends, long-term clients and other colleagues. 

Be careful not to come across as condescending. Always stay objective, focus on key deliverables and keep the interests of the company at the forefront.

When your boss is younger than you, it’s best to overlook the age factor. Be sure to respect their position, skills and authority. Look past your differences towards areas of commonality.

At the same time, recognize that your age and relative experience bring significant advantages. Harness these to develop a productive working relationship with your boss and — ultimately — help drive your company and career forward. 

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Sarah Landrum is the founder of Punched Clocks, a site dedicated to sharing advice on all things career. Follow her on Twitter @SarahLandrum for more great tips!