3 Tools to Advocate Kindness and Accelerate Communication

 

All parents are driven with the common intention of doing the best that they can for their children. From the minute they awake to the minute they fall asleep at night, parents’ schedules revolve around their needs and wants. Why? To put it simply, parents love their children like no other. As parents, this unique love inspires us to function beyond our expected intellectual, emotional, and physical capacity. And yet, we do it all willingly and tirelessly. Well, for the most part.

However, It is only when we are faced with dilemmas that challenge us do we sometimes lose our footing and our sanity. When we find ourselves in such a situation, there is that one tool that can help us to rise above and showcase our love and save the day despite the circumstances.

That savior is KINDNESS.

When parents remind themselves to be kind during the storm, it helps keep guilt at bay for the parents and lets their child know that they are loved no matter what, thrusting them into a defenseless, constructive, learning mode. If a discussion is necessary, parents should coat their message with kindness and if discipline is called for, parents should deliver it with kindness. too.

Kindness is simply an attitude and a tone of voice that echoes the love that we feel for our children. Kindness truly is the home where love lives.

By being kind, we are actually acting out what Daniel Goleman, award winning author, psychologist, science journalist, and the Father of Emotional Intelligence calls “compassionate empathy,” which research proves can immediately improve your life while improving your childs’.

Here are some 3 quick TOGs (Tools of Growth) that advocate kindness and accelerate communication:

1. Use terms of Endearment : Opt for “What’s the matter, love?” (which will immediately open up their minds and their hearts) instead of terms of enfearment like “Whats wrong with you?”

2. Back that up with a calm and kind tone of voice, which will help keep the child’s defenses down.

3. The power of touch during challenges has limitless potential. A gentle stroke, a kind rub on the back while using a calm tone of voice and terms of endearment can help pacify the child and take the edge off, encouraging communication and helping you to speed up to a resolution.

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