Summer Fun To Kick Start Passion with Your Partner

A few years ago I was watching a reality/dating TV show where a couple on a second date decided to bungee jump from a bridge, something neither of them had ever done before. 

Not only were they going to leap off the bridge, they were going to do it at the same time. First they sat on the edge of the bridge, side by side, admitting how scared they were. Then, as it was nearing time for the jump, they tried to crack a few jokes... but you could tell they were petrified.

Finally they jumped and survived. In the next scene they were having a glass of wine, gazing into each other’s eyes and clearly falling in love.

What happened? 

Well according to some experts, it turns out that the physiological experience of experiencing fear and anxiety can lead to sexual attraction and bonding! Whether you’ve been married for decades or are in a new relationship, you can quickly ignite passion by doing something together that includes enough risk to get the juices flowing. Activities such as:

Skydiving
Whitewater rafting
Riding a rollercoaster
Parasailing 
Bungee jumping
Riding a zip line over the treetops
Taking a “ropes course”
Watching a really, scary movie.

 The goal is to do something together that feels just a little life-threatening to get the adrenaline and other brain chemistry going.

A word of caution for those who are just beginning to date someone new: Be sure this is someone you really want to bond with, otherwise you may end up with what some shrinks call “misattribution.” 

I still think that the very best way to get to know someone (and to get a good idea if they are the one for you) is to take a short trip with them. Travel can bring out the best and the worst in someone. You will soon figure out whether or not you are compatible and can skillfully communicate with each other when you are both in a strange land out of your comfort zones.

—Arielle Ford, www.soulmatesecret.com 

Want more of Arielle's great advice? Read her article, How To Find Your Soul Mate!

Photocredit: Carl Studna