You do not own the ones you love (blog marathon post 3)

So I just got back from watching Dil Dhadakne Do . And I must say Zoya Akhtar did not disappoint at all. I had loved her earlier two movies too. (Luck by Chance and Zindagi Na Mile dobara)

This is what I had said on my FB page


 Though it deals with many issues like being trapped in a unhappy marriage, pity-sex, doing something even when your heart isn't in it, upholding family values etc the one that appealed most to me was one of the core messages which is " If you love someone give them freedom to do what makes them happy."


I firmly believe that parents, especially in the Indian context should stop interfering in their adult children's lives. Once the children are standing on their own feet, and no longer living with parents, parents need to back off. Respect the choices that your adult child makes--even though you may not always agree with them.


It is the same in relationships. Your partner might be making a choice which is making them happy. You may not understand it. It might not be something that you choose for them. You may not agree with their choice and you may presume that you have a right to express your opinion on their choice.
But you don't. In a marriage or a relationship, the woman doesn't 'own' the man nor does the man  'belong' to the wife. Both are free to make their choices. The choices they make might hurt each other badly. (Like was depicted in the movie)

But if you love each other, you will work towards resolving it. By talking about it. By bringing up issues which you feel deeply about. By opening your minds. And trying hard to understand what it is that makes your loved one tick.
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