When friends don't respond back (Blog maraton post 2)
So did you do something yesterday that you have never done before? I know some of you did---and left comments in my comment box and those felt good to read, even though I haven't replied individually (yet)--but I did read each and every one.
Today the day started for me with Sheryl Sandberg's very moving post.
Do read it if you haven't--it is worth your while. It reminded me of that last chapter in my first book.
Sometimes we realise how dear something is, only when you have lost it or you come close to losing it. Death of a loved one is something that affects us in ways that just cannot be explained--only experienced. It changes us, leaving a hole in our hearts but we become compassionate because of it.
It is the same when a relationship ends. Or when you lose a friendship. At times the friend just stops communicating with you for absolutely no reason. They just don't answer back when you call. They don't reply to your pings and when you try to make plans to meet, they are always busy. Slowly a cherished friendship becomes a cherished memory.
There is nothing you can do about these things. The 'why it happens' is not yours to solve. What is important is how you deal with it.
I get mails from many who ask me what they can do if a person they like doesn't reciprocate. They don't reply back. They are usually unavailable. And no matter how much of effort one makes, the other just doesn't want to respond.
Now here is the thing--you cannot do anything other than bear it. You cannot make anyone want to talk to you. People go out of your lives because there are new people waiting to enter it. Whatever that person's purpose was in your life, it is over. Sometimes, they will come back. Sometimes they won't. If they come back, accept them back if it gives you joy. But you may often find that when they do come back you have moved on.
And that is okay.
That is just how it was meant to be.
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Today the day started for me with Sheryl Sandberg's very moving post.
Do read it if you haven't--it is worth your while. It reminded me of that last chapter in my first book.
Sometimes we realise how dear something is, only when you have lost it or you come close to losing it. Death of a loved one is something that affects us in ways that just cannot be explained--only experienced. It changes us, leaving a hole in our hearts but we become compassionate because of it.
It is the same when a relationship ends. Or when you lose a friendship. At times the friend just stops communicating with you for absolutely no reason. They just don't answer back when you call. They don't reply to your pings and when you try to make plans to meet, they are always busy. Slowly a cherished friendship becomes a cherished memory.
There is nothing you can do about these things. The 'why it happens' is not yours to solve. What is important is how you deal with it.
I get mails from many who ask me what they can do if a person they like doesn't reciprocate. They don't reply back. They are usually unavailable. And no matter how much of effort one makes, the other just doesn't want to respond.
Now here is the thing--you cannot do anything other than bear it. You cannot make anyone want to talk to you. People go out of your lives because there are new people waiting to enter it. Whatever that person's purpose was in your life, it is over. Sometimes, they will come back. Sometimes they won't. If they come back, accept them back if it gives you joy. But you may often find that when they do come back you have moved on.
And that is okay.
That is just how it was meant to be.
_________________________________________________
Get It Happens for a Reason at a great price:
Amazon: http://is.gd/Ithappensamazon
Flipkart: http://is.gd/Flipkartithappens
Crossword: http://is.gd/Ithappenscrossword
http://preetishenoy.com/
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