Dissing Your Other Half

Do you vent to your kids on days when you’re angry at your spouse– be it a difference in opinion or lack of respect or domestic squabble? Sure, who hasn’t.

There is no winning in this!

While this helps us get things off of our chest, it gives kids the in to future “divide and conquer”. It breeds disrespect, imprinting impressionable minds with the wrong impression. It puts them in the midst of confusing emotions, doubts and fears.

While we seem to hug, kiss, make up and move on the next day, we leave behind, in our kids minds, negative feelings that will show up sooner or later. Consequences that we will surely have to clean up at some point.

Let’s be bold the next time we are tempted to diss our other half. Let’s not make excuses for their bad behavior but actually build them up to the kids by saying:

“I know Dad was wrong when he said that. He needs some time to figure it out. This will pass and we love each other regardless.”

Or

“I know mom blew a fuse but it happens to all of us. I’m giving her some quite time. We’ll figure it out because we love each other regardless.”

Can you be bold and courageous like that? Do it a few times and feel the high of the benefits. Can you be so bold as to flip the coin and take the lead to calm and resolve?

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