How to Speak Up and Overcome Obstacles

Oppressive attitudes and behaviors show up constantly in the workplace. I want to get into how you can identify oppression and what you can do about it.  

Find a release. The worst thing you can do is internalize toxicity, negativity, or oppression. This external negativity is not you and should not define you. However, you may start to feel it in your body with tightened muscles or an upset stomach. You may also start to have shallow breathing or begin to feel depressed or anxious. How do you feel on Sunday night? Make sure you don’t take your toxic work environment home with you. Set up an exercise schedule. Drink water. Breathe. Schedule time for self-care. Make sure you have a life outside of your work.

Find allies. Oppressors often have their own set of rules that are hard to follow and change according to each subjective scenario. Make sure you find your plumb line and stick to your integrity no matter what. Find friends—you will know them from their warmth and their smiles. They are legitimate, not just when it’s convenient. They’ll stick by you through thick and thin, and they may not even work with you. Schedule lunches, coffee dates, or other networking events with them. These relationships may help you cope with said oppressors or even act as crucial sponsors that may help you move out of your current role or position. Just remember your professionalism and avoid drama and gossip at all costs. 

Speak up and take bold actions. One of the most divisive tools of the oppressor is silence. Not only do they steal away your voice but they also teach you fear and how to act small. They may ask you be on “listening mode” in meetings or they may answer your requests with silence. This goes beyond just what is said – pay close attention to meeting invitations and whether you are asked to participate on taskforces and teams. Speak up by asking to participate or address your experiences with “I feel as though…” messages. Do not reduce your presence. Stay present and steady instead.

Know this: you are very powerful. Because of your power, you will receive resistance, opposition, envy, jealousy and even anger. Do not cover or reduce your light, just because someone (even your superior) is uncomfortable.

--Laura Newberry-Yokley, Holistic Leadership Coach