Why I love to write vs. Ray Rice

Since the Ray Rice video came to light, there has been a big out-cry against domestic violence--from the NFL to Dr. Phil. It's about time. I wasn’t going to divulge this, but I too, WAS a victim of domestic violence. I alluded to this fact in one of my posts of “Why you will never find me on Facebook”. I made light of the reason that I have an ex out there who would love to find me so he could send me “love letters”. I only wish it was that simple. There’s a good reason why I can’t do a full-blown Facebook social contact kind of thing—I can’t risk him finding me. I’m not going to go into the details of what I went through, or why I stayed so long. There are many reasons why women stay. What’s important is that we support one another, not ask someone in an abusive relationship "why?". When that door opens, she will leave. This is true of Ray Rice’s wife. I look in her eyes and I know why she’s sitting beside him during those press releases with cameras flashing away; Why she didn’t just pack her bags and leave after being knocked out cold, which, believe me, is not the first time. And then on the other hand, I’ll be glad when her door opens and she will leave if he doesn’t change his views on women. In the meantime, let’s support her and all the women in her situation. Only an abused woman knows what she’s going through and why she’s still with him.

This is why my career as an author is so important to me. The main reason is because I love writing so much; I would write for free. But also, this means my financial independence from him. And one day, I will fully accomplish that; To hopefully write novels that are popular enough to allow me to break that last chain that connects me to him. So, I’m going to continue to work hard and reach that goal.

Which brings me to why I love writing romance so much. I call my stories true love stories. I write about the kind of man most of us can only dream about. A man who is not only FINE on the outside, but is twice as beautiful on the inside: Respectful toward all women, your protector, patient, kind. And even when he’s standing before you engulfed in a huge argument, instead of reaching out to do physical harm, all he wants to do is reach out and touch you, to hold you, and assure you of his love; That touch that brings out the passion in him for the woman he loves so much—his soul mate; A red-blooded male filled with desire and passion and wants to express that only to you.

I try to make my hero’s unforgettable. My motto is: If you can’t find Mr. Right in the real world, he’ll always be waiting for you in my EverAfter Romance Series. I do hope I’m doing a good enough job. Have I accomplished that? Feel free to let me know.

In the meantime, this fall I will be very busy on my third romance novel, and second suspense one. So, until they’re finished, I will keep you up-to-date. Thanks Everyone!