Ask lunaKM – All Dominants Like a Challenge, Say What?!
My D has said that his last relationship of a S ended because there was no challenge, she was too submissive. I understand that to be coy, aloof, play hard to get and or I’m busy can be an attractive feature, but part of my attraction to involving myself in this lifestyle is the appeal to not have to play games and be able to give myself completely to my d. I have read the statement online that d’s like a challenge. I’m not sure I can be both.
I have and always do, feel deeply for my d. I am already scared of loosing him.
He is away, and I want to text him again and again, even when I not receive a response, but scared I will appear not a challenge. Time to move on.
Please help.
Dear scared of losing him,
This may sound silly coming from an online site, but don’t believe all you read online. Overarching generalizations, such as Dominants like challenging submissives, are notoriously inaccurate. Only some Dominants like challenge. Others, and I daresay the majority, prefer to not have to work so hard for submission. I know that KnyghtMare would not be with me if he had to constantly fight me for my submission. He wants it willingly given without me being coy.
There are so many different kinds of submissives out there. I’m certain that you don’t have to pretend to be someone you aren’t just to keep the one Dominant you’ve found shows interest in you. You can pick and choose who you will submit too and I’m sure you will find someone who likes your style of submission.
So you’ve found a Dominant that prefers to play hard to get submissive and you know you aren’t that sort of submissive. I know you are scared of losing him, but it sounds like you are not compatible. You can’t pretend to be aloof and he can’t pretend to enjoy a non-challenge. I think you already know. It’s time to move on and find someone who will enjoy the type of submissive you are.
–lunaKM
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