Make Sensitivity Work for You, Starting Today

Helene recently spoke with coach and author Cheryl Richardson. Here are some of her insights about the benefits of being highly sensitive, and how to use it to your advantage.

Helene: Many of us, especially women, are labeled as “over-sensitive.” What are the advantages of being sensitive?

Cheryl: Being sensitive means being highly perceptive of your environment, being in tune energetically with yourself and those around you. For example, I was in a board meeting recently with about 20 men and one other woman. Because I’m sensitive, I had a pretty good idea of what was going on with each of them, and when they spoke, they confirmed what I had picked up on. That meant I was able to tailor my communication style for each of them and connect in a more effective way.

It can also mean being physically sensitive and knowing what needs to be done to make yourself and others comfortable, whether it’s adjusting the lighting or buying the perfect set of sheets.

Helene: How can sensitive people handle those who may not have their best interest at heart?

Cheryl: You need to first build a relationship with your sensitivity and stop seeing it as a liability. I recently had a coaching session with a woman who had been called into a meeting with a colleague who had very harshly fired off all the areas where she performed “poorly.” She knew that removing herself from the situation was the best way to protect herself, so she did what she could to end the meeting as quickly as possible. Know yourself. Address the situation with the other person and set appropriate boundaries. An easy way to do this is to put a sign on your desk that says, “drama free zone” or “gossip free zone.” You'd be amazed by how your co-workers respond.

Helene: What can sensitive people do to protect themselves in harsh work environments?

Cheryl: If your sensitivity makes you physically uncomfortable in your work space, make sure you have natural light or purchase bulbs that simulate natural light. Add plants to your space and avoid media sources that seduce you with frightening or negative stories. Make sure you take a walk every day to get fresh air. And know it might be best to seek out a different situation. Many sensitive women try desperately to stay in places that aren't right for them. I can assure you, there is a work environment somewhere that is begging for your sensitivity, talents and skills.