I'm Ready to Live! (Part 3)
This is a four part blog series on how you can begin the healing process after an abusive (romantic) relationship. Read "I'm Ready to Live!" (Part 1 & Part 2) before beginning this post.
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The third thing one can do is: JOURNAL!
I can hear some of you saying, "Okay, Aynoit. You have me wanting to heal and getting to know myself. Now you want me to write?!" No, I don't want you to write, I want you to JOURNAL! Let me explain the difference: Writing is a collection of words used to get a point across. Journaling is a collection of words used to heal.
People write all the time. Most of the time there is no true feeling behind the writing unless you are trying to convey a message. Journaling helps to convey a message to yourself. It helps you express thoughts and feelings of the past and present. One can journal about everyday situations, the hopes and dreams of your future or your past experiences (good and bad).
My red journal was a place to dump all my feelings, hopes, hates, dreams, hurts, etc. My red journal was a place of non-judgement. It was a place I could reflect on my past and figure out my future. My red journal helped me begin the healing process! I wrote decisions I had made, good and bad. I wrote about every day obstacles. I wrote about confusion and hurt. It gave me a place to go when I felt alone. It gave me a safe place for my feelings.
Journaling reduces stress, brings clarity to the healing process and hurtful pasts, it helps with self expression, it reveals patterns/cycles, it helps one make critical decisions and much, much more! Journaling is vital to healing.
I've hosted group workshops on journaling and the number one reason people give me for not journaling is, "I don't know what to write." What can you write about in your journal?
Everyday activities and how they made you feelObstacles and how you plan to overcome themHow a past event has effected your lifeWhat your dreams are for the futureYour new hobby
Aynoit's journal is available.If you have written about all of those things and don't know what to write, elaborate on them or reread a journal entry and write how things have changed since that entry.
Journaling is so therapeutic! My red journal has movie ticket stubs, business cards and quotes taped to the inside covers. My most precious "taped" item is a small buttercup my daughter picked for me in April of 2002.
I feel empowered when I read the journal and see how far I have come. Yes, I read the hurtful things that happened, but reading those things remind me that I am now happy and I did the right thing by leaving my abuser.
Have you used journaling in your past? Tell me about your experience in the comments section.
If you would like to read the thoughts I had after I left my abusive marriage you can download The Red Journal, Part 1 to your Kindle or via Google Play Books.
Read I'm Ready to Live, Part 4.
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The third thing one can do is: JOURNAL!
I can hear some of you saying, "Okay, Aynoit. You have me wanting to heal and getting to know myself. Now you want me to write?!" No, I don't want you to write, I want you to JOURNAL! Let me explain the difference: Writing is a collection of words used to get a point across. Journaling is a collection of words used to heal.
People write all the time. Most of the time there is no true feeling behind the writing unless you are trying to convey a message. Journaling helps to convey a message to yourself. It helps you express thoughts and feelings of the past and present. One can journal about everyday situations, the hopes and dreams of your future or your past experiences (good and bad).
My red journal was a place to dump all my feelings, hopes, hates, dreams, hurts, etc. My red journal was a place of non-judgement. It was a place I could reflect on my past and figure out my future. My red journal helped me begin the healing process! I wrote decisions I had made, good and bad. I wrote about every day obstacles. I wrote about confusion and hurt. It gave me a place to go when I felt alone. It gave me a safe place for my feelings.
Journaling reduces stress, brings clarity to the healing process and hurtful pasts, it helps with self expression, it reveals patterns/cycles, it helps one make critical decisions and much, much more! Journaling is vital to healing.
I've hosted group workshops on journaling and the number one reason people give me for not journaling is, "I don't know what to write." What can you write about in your journal?
Everyday activities and how they made you feelObstacles and how you plan to overcome themHow a past event has effected your lifeWhat your dreams are for the futureYour new hobby
Aynoit's journal is available.If you have written about all of those things and don't know what to write, elaborate on them or reread a journal entry and write how things have changed since that entry.Journaling is so therapeutic! My red journal has movie ticket stubs, business cards and quotes taped to the inside covers. My most precious "taped" item is a small buttercup my daughter picked for me in April of 2002.
I feel empowered when I read the journal and see how far I have come. Yes, I read the hurtful things that happened, but reading those things remind me that I am now happy and I did the right thing by leaving my abuser.
Have you used journaling in your past? Tell me about your experience in the comments section.
If you would like to read the thoughts I had after I left my abusive marriage you can download The Red Journal, Part 1 to your Kindle or via Google Play Books.
Read I'm Ready to Live, Part 4.
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Be Social! SHARE, Like, Tweet, +1 and FOLLOW
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