How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself Now

How often have you engaged in behavior that is potentially destructive to your career? Many of the most damaging forms of self-sabotage are subtle and often easily dismissed or excused. It can be as simple as failing to speak up in meetings or downplaying your contribution on a critical project or initiative.

We’ve all heard that voice in our head that says, “You can’t, you’re not smart enough, or who are you think you can succeed?” Trust yourself and your abilities. Affirm yourself daily and celebrate all the great things you have accomplished already. When self-doubt appears, be willing to examine the root cause at a time that is most productive.  Don’t allow it to derail you in the moment. Design a strategy to quiet the voice of self-doubt in the moment. Many of my clients use the simple strategy of saying to the voice in their head, “Thanks for sharing, but that is not helpful in this moment.” By acknowledging the doubt, they can let it go, maintain their personal power and succeed at the task at hand.  

You may be someone who either over-communicates (fails to get to the bottom line quickly) or under-communicates (fails to speak up at all). Both behaviors can sabotage your success. Hone your message and lead with your big idea first. In many organizations, those who speak up early in meetings are perceived as more confident. If you tend to need more reflection time, review any information prior to a meeting and come in ready to share a clear position on the issues you will be discussing.

The biggest saboteur I have seen of women in my practice is the failure to act decisively. Don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. Learn to analyze data quickly and accurately so you can act.  Decisive action can communicate your command of the situation and will often garner the respect of your counterparts.

Be aware of your sabotaging behavior, even if it does not appear to be impacting you today. Take stock now so you can stop blocking your path to success.

-Cornelia Shipley, Career Coach
www.corneliashipley.com