H is for Harness
Although I have had occasion to model a few harnesses in my lifetime, I haven’t actually used one in the bedroom yet. Therefore, I must defer to the wisdom of my sex writer pal, Queerie Bradshaw (aka Lauren Marie Fleming), who has written an entire instructional ebook on the subject — which you can download for free from Frisky Feminist Press here.
Take it away, Lauren:
When I strapped it on for the first time, I felt like a pubescent boy, wanting to stick my cock in everything. That feeling has never gone away. I still find myself fully aroused by simply putting on a harness, and completely insatiable when my partner is wearing one.
As you may recall from my D is for Dildos post, I noted that my “Dick for a Day” fantasies would definitely involve sex. Lauren echoes this sentiment a bit in her harness guide, suggesting that women – and even men – can enjoy harnesses because they essentially give you that cock to play with. Better yet, you don’t have to give it back after just one day!
She also adds that, like most pubescent boys, she had to learn how to use this new cock in order to play with a partner. She recommends watching feminist porn and instructional videos in order to get a feel your harness. Here’s a link one of her recommended videos at Smitten Kitten, in case you’re curious.
As far as picking our your first harness, one of Lauren’s recommendations is Babeland’s Sasha Harness:
As you can see, this harness more closely resembles a cute pair of panties than a complex tangle of leather straps, which makes it quite easy to slip on and off.
If, in fact, you are looking for something a little more complex, and that provides easier access to your own body than the Sasha model, you may be interested in Aslan’s Jaguar Harness:
This style is perhaps the more typical kind of harness people envision when it comes to using dildos, and it’s also one of Lauren’s recommended harnesses.
Whether you’re interested in strapping it on for the feeling of power that comes with a cock, or you’d like to try something new in the bedroom, I highly recommend paging through Lauren’s guide. It’s a great way to learn more about harnesses and the people who use them, and you may be surprised to find yourself curious enough to take the plunge.
So, what do you think? Wanna strap yourself into a harness for a while?
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