Books. Babies. Not the same thing.

I don’t subscribe to that whole “my books are my babies” mantra that you see every now and then. I don’t have babies. Lucky, because I’d be in jail if I treated my babies how I treat my books. It’s my understanding that babies have to be fed and washed and clothed and, most importantly, that you can’t just abandon them if they begin to annoy you. So, no. Books and babies are very different things.

I do understand where this sentiment comes from, though. I really do. We work hard on our books. We create them. We are emotionally attached to them.


But they’re still not babies.


Because too often when an author pulls out the “But my book is like my baby!” thing, it's the first stop on the crazy train that is the Meltdown Express. Before you know it you're at "How dare you criticise me just because you're too stupid to understand my genius" Station. 

As though likening a book to a baby is an excuse to have an overwrought reaction to an unfavourable review.

As though someone saying they don’t like your book is like someone harming your child.

Rubbish.

Why not talk to someone who’s had a child, and ask them if that child in any way compares to a book? Better yet, why not talk to someone who’s lost a child and find out what they think of that cutesy little book analogy?

Books are a lot of things. They can inspire you, and educate you, and they can take you to places you never thought you’d get to go. Books are wonderful, and they are more than the sum of their parts. They can be magical.

And yet… they’re still not babies.


Well, maybe this kind of baby:



I hatch them, I wish them well, and then I kick them the hell out of my nest. 
Whatever happens to them out there, they’re tough enough to handle it, and so am I.
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Published on March 12, 2014 06:50
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message 1: by Julio (new)

Julio Genao damned right.

*still nodding in approval ten minutes later*


♣ Irish Smurfétté ♣ I bet you wrote this just so you could use the wee birdy pic, eh? :p lol

In all seriousness, of course, you once again pretty much break it awn down, chica. It's skeery and exciting to put something out there that you've created, whatever it is, and when I do, I always get that weird sense of freedom: it's now in the hands of the rest of the world, almost not even mine anymore. Hard to explain.


message 3: by Kathleen (new)

Kathleen


message 4: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry I love the pic of the bird. Are You My Mother was my favourite book once upon a time. Apart from Go, Dog! Go! which is a masterpiece.


message 5: by Crispy (new)

Crispy Since you admit to hatching them, are your books cute fluffy chicks or snappy little crocodiles?


message 6: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Crispy wrote: "Since you admit to hatching them, are your books cute fluffy chicks or snappy little crocodiles?"

I'm going to go for snappy little crocodiles! Or geckos. I hatch geckos in my house all the time.


message 7: by Crispy (new)

Crispy Geckos, crocs or (and this is truly what I envisaged for a moment) Aliens!!!


message 8: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Crispy wrote: "Geckos, crocs or (and this is truly what I envisaged for a moment) Aliens!!!"

Cute little aliens, who are plotting to take over the world. :)


message 9: by Ami (new)

Ami I don't have a baby myself but I refuse to let my future babies to be compared to books as well...


message 10: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Ami wrote: "I don't have a baby myself but I refuse to let my future babies to be compared to books as well..."

Exactly! :)


message 11: by Steelwhisper (new)

Steelwhisper Was it Anne Rice? ;P

Agreeing with you, of course.


message 12: by Becky (last edited Mar 13, 2014 02:39AM) (new)

Becky Black Definitely agree, Lisa. I think the most crucial difference is the emotion behind the reaction the author feels to criticism of their books, as opposed to the the emotion behind what a parent feels if someone criticizes their child.

In the case of the parent it's protectiveness, because their baby could be hurt by the criticism. In the case of the author it's wounded pride. Because criticism of the book is in the end criticism of the writer's skills, at least in the case of this book.

Whatever they might claim, the writer isn't angry because they are protective of the book and the characters - those cannot be hurt by even the most vicious attack. It's the writer who is hurt.


message 13: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Steelwhisper wrote: "Was it Anne Rice? ;P

Agreeing with you, of course."


I don't know if Anne Rice has used this one yet. So far she seems to be stuck on the "you don't understand my genius" loop. She's making art, don't you know? ART FOR THE AGES.

*smh*


message 14: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Becky wrote: "Definitely agree, Lisa. I think the most crucial difference is the emotion behind the reaction the author feels to criticism of their books, as opposed to the the emotion behind what a parent feels..."

You're absolutely right. Becky. It's about authors getting hurt feelings, then using the baby analogy to somehow excuse their overreactions. Books don't give a damn if you love them, hate them, or line the cat's litter tray with them.


message 15: by Experiment BL626 (new)

Experiment BL626 I don't know. Babies are like books in some ways. Sometime they bring you joy. And sometime they bring you shit. It's the latter that people often forget about. LOL


message 16: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Henry Experiment BL626 wrote: "I don't know. Babies are like books in some ways. Sometime they bring you joy. And sometime they bring you shit. It's the latter that people often forget about. LOL"

LOL!


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