CONNECTION: THE POWER OF BONDING

I believe that what matters in the end are the connections I leave behind. When I connect with others and the world around me, my life fills with meaning and purpose.

Each time I connect with someone a bond is established. But connecting is a process for me. When I’m comfortable connecting comes easy. But when uncomfortable, like among a large group of people– and it doesn’t matter whether I know them or not–it’s more of a process and I am fully aware of that awkward feeling. So I take a deep breath and try to soften my limbs. When my mind and body are relaxed, and when I listen more than I talk, connecting is easier.

In his spiritual guide for teens, Fire in the Heart, Deepak Chopra details the “how-to” specifics:

• Look in the other person’s eyes with acceptance.

• Show that you understand their point of view.

• Don’t rush to make your point of view seem right.

• Show respect in every situation, even when you feel angry and argue. Both sides of an argument need to be able to walk away feeling respected.

• Be willing to compromise.

• Do your best to feel what the other person feels. Put yourself in their position.

• If you are in a bad mood, tell the other person that it is not their fault.

• Give the other person the gift of approval, smiles and laughter.

• Make some sort of physical contact if it is appropriate, showing with a light touch on the shoulders, a hug, or shaking hands that you feel close.

• Show in your body language that you feel relaxed around the other person. Relaxed body language means that your arms and legs aren’t crossed; your shoulders are lowered; you face them directly, not turning to one side; and your facial muscles are relaxed.

I believe that connecting with the world around us should be practiced daily. Soften our hearts. Be generous with our smiles and the touch of hands. Have fun. Let’s work at it together.