How to Deal with Coworkers Who Are Overly Negative

At some point, we all encounter a coworker who is critical or negative. Here’s what to do.

First, don’t listen to or internalize their criticism. When someone is toxic towards you, detach. Don’t give them any of your energy or take in any of theirs.

If you must interact with them, and they say or do something that is sapping your energy, then just ask them why they are making a particular statement or behaving a certain way. Make them accountable for their language and behavior.

Also, identify the specific ways in which they are toxic. Do they behave that way with everyone – or just you?

If it’s just you, determine whether you play a role in the dynamic.  You have no control over their behavior. When working or speaking with them, stay focused on your job. Do not allow for any personal attacks or complaining. If he or she persists then address that directly. Once the work conversation is done, disengage.

-Simma Lieberman, "The Inclusionist"
Career Coach
www.simmalieberman.com