When You Can't Make Direct Amends

Several readers have noted how difficult it is for them to make amends to a friend or relative who is too infirm to comprehend their gesture. One reader came up with a particularly effective and touching solution. "I am a recovering alcoholic/addict. As part our 12-Step program, we identify and make amends to those we have harmed. My hardest amends were to my parents. I was very nervous about making amends to my mother, who I have never had a close relationship with. I didn't know what to exp...