"Today, I feel like the sex I choose to have in my life has to include more than just physical..."

“Today, I feel like the sex I choose to have in my life has to include more than just physical factors. It’s not enough to be having an orgasm (or two, or three) every time. It’s not enough to feel like I have the space to talk about and ask for the things that turn me on. I have to feel like my partners and I have opened the space to be radically honest about the ways we have been damaged, the space to start healing each other’s wounds and healing our own in the process.”

- Sites of Violence: Why Our Notions of “Sex Positive” Feminism Are in Need of an Overhaul (via brujacore)