The ramblings of an erotic author...
I'm fast approaching the anniversary of the day my first erotic story was published. Disciplinary Action was a landmark moment for me and I am fortunate enough to have gone from strength to strength since...
Being an erotic author is amazing. I am proud of everything I've had published and am embracing the network of other awesome indie authors, who have supported and inspired me! And yet writing erotica also creates crazy new situations and conversations that I've never encountered before...
There's little doubt to me that even the word 'erotica' carries with it some unspoken stigma. FSOG may be 'Mummy porn', but in my experience many women (and men) still shy away from talking openly about sex and erotica. Even some of my own friends have been reluctant to admit that they enjoy reading smut-filled stories!
One recent example saw me discussing what I did for a living with a group of mothers from my little one's new Pre-school. That was an interesting one, believe me! ;O) You never really know what sort of response you'll receive when you tell comparative strangers that you write erotica! Some people love the idea, are intrigued and ask me (often in hushed tones) if I can direct them to my work. Other people recoil in disgust and put space between us in the future!
This is to be expected I suppose. I am reconciled to the fact that I can not please all of the people, all of the time - and in truth - I'm not trying to. It does however, make me wonder why in so-called 'liberal' societies, we are still so embarrassed by erotica... Is sex really 'that' dirty?? (Only if it's good, apparently..!)
I would love to hear your thoughts about this. If you read erotica or watch pornography, are you shy about sharing this information with friends? Does erotic literature make 'porn' more acceptable somehow? (it's generally accepted that most men enjoy the visual and women are more stimulated by the written word...)
I too have been guilty of hiding my desires in the past, but publishing my own words has helped me to accept this part of myself a lot more.
How do all you other erotica writers deal with similar experiences? You have to admit, "I write erotica for a living" is a great ice-breaker at parties!!
As always, your thoughts and feedback are beyond welcome!
Back to editing for me...
Happy Hump Day one and all!
Felicity Brandon
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Being an erotic author is amazing. I am proud of everything I've had published and am embracing the network of other awesome indie authors, who have supported and inspired me! And yet writing erotica also creates crazy new situations and conversations that I've never encountered before...
There's little doubt to me that even the word 'erotica' carries with it some unspoken stigma. FSOG may be 'Mummy porn', but in my experience many women (and men) still shy away from talking openly about sex and erotica. Even some of my own friends have been reluctant to admit that they enjoy reading smut-filled stories!
One recent example saw me discussing what I did for a living with a group of mothers from my little one's new Pre-school. That was an interesting one, believe me! ;O) You never really know what sort of response you'll receive when you tell comparative strangers that you write erotica! Some people love the idea, are intrigued and ask me (often in hushed tones) if I can direct them to my work. Other people recoil in disgust and put space between us in the future!
This is to be expected I suppose. I am reconciled to the fact that I can not please all of the people, all of the time - and in truth - I'm not trying to. It does however, make me wonder why in so-called 'liberal' societies, we are still so embarrassed by erotica... Is sex really 'that' dirty?? (Only if it's good, apparently..!)
I would love to hear your thoughts about this. If you read erotica or watch pornography, are you shy about sharing this information with friends? Does erotic literature make 'porn' more acceptable somehow? (it's generally accepted that most men enjoy the visual and women are more stimulated by the written word...)
I too have been guilty of hiding my desires in the past, but publishing my own words has helped me to accept this part of myself a lot more.
How do all you other erotica writers deal with similar experiences? You have to admit, "I write erotica for a living" is a great ice-breaker at parties!!
As always, your thoughts and feedback are beyond welcome!
Back to editing for me...
Happy Hump Day one and all!
Felicity Brandon
Fx
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