3 of the most important questions you should ask to yourself to become a happier person

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3 of the most important questions you should ask to yourself to become a happier person

The one thing every creature on this planet has in common is the urge to seek fuller expression. Call it evolution, progression or natural advancement, whatever it is; every living entity has an innate compulsion to grow.

People are the highest form of this expression and are quick to manipulate and adapt to their environment, creating their world as they go. But with the urge for more, to evolve, to seek better circumstances, a happy emotional state and a life balance, the distractions that sidetrack us and the problems that cause us unhappiness can all too often leave us stagnating and frustrated.

Life is not ‘a one size fits all’ scenario. Each of us in unique and different. Variety allows life to express itself through our uniqueness. Don’t settle for less; don’t get swept up in the sheep-like throng provided my media, governments and society. YOU have something different from anyone else on this planet, something that is YOU and only YOU, and the world is waiting for your contribution. It may be simple like your sense of humour, it could be your outlook on life. Whatever it is make sure you don’t bury it in the race to fit in and gain approval from the society of sheep!

There are questions that we should ask ourselves from time to time. Our lives change, and as it changes, our aspirations change. You are, after all, not the same person you were five or ten years ago – in fact you are more today than you were yesterday, because we continue to grow, through experience and the challenges life serves us.

So what are the questions you should ask yourself?

1. What do I really want?

The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day. Sometimes it’s hard to know what WE really want. Industry and social conditioning reinforced through the media tell us what we should aspire to, but this does not necessarily mean it is right for us. The main purpose of life is to be happy. Happiness is an emotional state. The trick is to find what it is that will make YOU happy. You can have some fun with this, try new things, but don’t get hung up on any individual subject, just see what happens and see how it makes you feel.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Do I take responsibility for my own life?

It’s sometimes all too easy to be the victim, to blame others or circumstances for our lack of happiness. You have only one life, and it is only YOU that is responsible for it – it is only YOU that will experience it. Ultimately, YOU have to live with consequences of your decisions and actions. Does it matter who’s to blame? Does it make more sense to find the cause, even it’s your own mindset, learn from it and draw a line under it then move on? After all you cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.

3. Am I free?

I’m talking in the psychological sense – ask yourself is there something holding you back? Is there a fear that stops you moving forward toward your own personal happiness? Are you in a relationship that depends on your partner’s approval or are you resistant and scared of moving on with your life because of past experience? Does fear of change leave you holding back?

Being free in your mind emotionally allows you a limitless choice of opportunities, without fear pulling you back. Don’t go gung-ho immediately and all at once, take it slowly, start introducing small things at first, like perhaps you always wanted a new hair colour or style or fancied going on holiday by yourself.

The trick to being free is to have faith in yourself; by knowing that whatever happens in life – YOU WILL BE FINE, YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING LIFE THROWS AT YOU. Gaining that faith does not happen overnight, but over a period of time. It is what experience is all about.

Think of it as an emotional immune system – similar to our own antibodies that fight infection and disease. Antibodies that overcome virus’s and illnesses, remember next time they are infected with the same strain and can deal more effectively with killing the harmful cells – so too does experience. After all, whatever doesn’t kill you-makes you stronger.