6 ways to build your self esteem and maintain your self-confidence

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6 ways to build your self esteem and maintain your self-confidence

So how do you remain calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? The answer is all about self esteem and self confidence.

The trick to improving and maintaining this self confidence and self esteem is to first recognise it. It’s not enough to react to situations, but to actively think about them. There are many people of various degrees of mental attitude out there, many not capable of controlling their emotional reactions, but you can!

It’s something akin to driving your car. You may be the safest driver out there, with good control but accidents can severely harm you due to other’s reckless driving. Keeping safe behind a car is not just being careful about the way you drive but about watching and seeing what other drivers are doing and taking necessary action. By adopting this attitude, a habit is formed, before long it becomes automatic habit.

Life is like this, people can harm us, mentally, denting our self esteem…IF WE LET THEM. Listed below are some simple tips, to protect you from the negativity that serves to hinder and lower our confidence and self esteem.

Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog-eat-dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this; it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is. Learn to observe and re-think the situation and when you see it for what it is; you will be able to rise above it with quiet confidence.
Other People’s Behaviour

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self- improvement scheme. It’s also worth taking an observational note of your home-life – is there someone there who challenges your self-esteem and confidence? See it for what it is – their problem, not yours and let any negativity bounce off you, be yourself and don’t acknowledge negative feedback that is not constructive.
Changing Environment

Change challenges our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it and adapt to it.
Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

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Self -fulfilling Prophecy

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.

In life, it’s hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and protective armour to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. Wearing bullet proof armour ideally means ‘self change’- the kind of change which comes from within – voluntarily. Armour or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behaviour and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.