A blogger asked this question: Do you think “Emotionally Healthy” Schools and Communities are Possible? Here is my Response

A blogger asked this question: Do you think “Emotionally Healthy” Schools and Communities are Possible? Here is my Response

 

I believe that we can have emotionally healthy schools and communities if ALL of us do what is needed to ensure this.

 

The problem is: Not all parents and teachers are on board. Although we have plenty of great parents and teachers, some people should not become parents and some teachers should not be in our classrooms.

 

As an educator and parent, I wonder why a couple of the teachers that my daughter has had EVER became teachers. They appeared not to like children, they did not have patience, screamed at students, demeaned students, used sarcasm, put big huge red X marks on their papers, and believe it or not, we have teacher bullies in our classrooms.

 

Parents need to PARENT. We can become friends with our well-raised children once they become adults. Parents must hug their children a lot and family units must become functional vs. dysfunctional.

 

Just yesterday I was in line at the grocery store. The man standing in line behind the woman that was directly behind me somehow coerced her into skipping in line. Once there, he tried to bully me out of my place. The clerk noticed that I could save money by choosing another meat instead of the one I’d chosen, and asked the lady who was bagging my groceries to stop and get the package of meat that would save me money. This guy began to give me an evil look and used profanity. I had my 11 year old daughter with me. Did he care that he was being rude and disrespectful?

Of course just looking at the guy made me cringe and want to throw up. He obviously was not a kind person and contributing man within our society. He was wearing low baggy pants (just to give you an idea). Sadly, we have far too many men who disrespect woman and children in our society, but we must ask ourselves — Why?

 

As Parents we must:

Not spoil our children
Instill a sense of remorse/care deep within them
Ensure that they learn to respect others
Role model ethics and hard work before them
Give them guidelines, expectations, rules and regulations
Expect that they will obey the laws of the land – Are we doing the same?

 

Once I saw the movie “The Hand That Rock the Cradle.” If you’ve seen this movie, you’ll realize the power of a woman, a Mom. We can do lots to mold and make our children into whatever we want them to become, but remember it works both ways. If we want tyrant, dysfunctional, disrespectful children, we can mold and make these, too.

 

I believe that the hands that rock the cradle rules the world. Just think about the power of that statement for just a moment. What an influence and impact we have as mothers/fathers/parents! Let us begin to parent first, and then help remove bad teachers out of our classrooms. Teachers who aren’t efficacious and called to the duty of helping our children succeed are not helping our children affirm who they are: Wonderful, worthy, intelligent beings who will one day be honorable citizens that we can happily dwell with within our society.

 

Yes, emotionally healthy schools and communities are possible, but we have lots of work to do. Now, I feel like we’ve dug ourselves into a huge hole so many degrees below sea level, and we’ll have to first get to sea level in order to move towards the tip of the mountain. Our society is in bad shape, and it will take ALL of us working together to fix it.

 

Note: I’m not speaking of our sweet little children who can’t help their emotional status such as children who are Autistic and/or mentally challenged. God will help us take care of these babies.