Dare to Reflect: When You Compare, You Dispair

One way we devalue our accomplishments is by comparing ourselves to others. There is always someone who has done more, done better, or done something more outrageous than us.  When we look at the world through this lens, we can never measure up, and that becomes a source of misery.

Why do do this to ourselves?

For the most part, I think comparing ourselves to others is simply habit. Many of us have been doing it for years, and it becomes a way of reinforcing limited beliefs we have about ourselves that keep us stuck.

Well, it's time to break out of the box.  We can do this by keeping the focus on ourselves, more specifically:

When you catch yourself in a comparison rut, become aware of what you are telling yourself.  Note how comparing yourself to others makes you feel (not great!).


Acknowledge something you have done recently that makes you feel proud. Let it take root in your mind, and share it with a friend.