If You Compare, You Despair

One way we can devalue our accomplishments is by comparing ourselves to others.

There is always someone who has done more, done better, or has done something outrageous.  When we look at the world with this lens, we can NEVER measure up, and that is a source of misery.

Why do we make ourselves miserable in this way?

I think for the most part it's habit. Many of us have been doing it for years. It is a way of reinforcing limited beliefs we have about ourselves that keep us stuck.

Well, it's time to break out of the box.  And we can do that by keeping the focus on ourselves. More specifically, here's what you can do:

. When you catch yourself in a comparison rut, become aware of what you are telling yourself.  Note how that makes you feel (not great!).

. Then acknowledge something you have done recently that you are proud of. Take it in, and share it with a friend.