769 Overcoming the Silent Freeze: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up

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“I want you to think about silence differently. When it is held with confidence, it is definitely more powerful than a bunch of rushed words.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Have you ever been in a meeting where someone suddenly calls your name and you freeze? Your mind goes completely blank, your body tenses, and even though you know the answer is in there somewhere, you cannot find the words. Or maybe you are in a heated conversation, someone accuses you of something unfair, and instead of speaking up you go silent. You just freeze.

If this has happened to you, you are not alone. Freezing in the moment is incredibly common. From CEOs to public speakers, from parents to teenagers, many of us have experienced the silent freeze. For some, it happens only occasionally. For others, it is almost chronic, showing up whenever they feel put on the spot.

In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I am breaking down why we freeze, what it really means, and most importantly, what you can do to work with your body and mind to move through it. The good news is that there are many strategies you can practice to expand, regain your voice, and communicate more effectively.

Highlights:5:20 Why and how we freeze8:45 Strategies to overcome your freeze reflex11:20 Becoming more comfortable with silence18:10 Exercising your boundary right to opt out of a conversation that you don’t want to haveLinks Mentioned:

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