Three years into the relationship.. feeling frustrated

Forum: Anger, Frustration & ADHD

Hello, I'm feeling frustrated and unheard and I just wanted to get this off my chest. I've been engaged to my fiance for almost two years now. I love him to death. He's thoughtful, brings me flowers, calls me beautiful every day, like he checks all the boxes on a 'perfect partner' checklist. Except the ADHD part.

I know it's unfair to call his condition a flaw. It's just how his brain works. But I feel so frustrated that he can rant on and on about something he likes or finds interesting, but if I talk for more than 10 seconds he loses attention. The longest time I talked to him without him interrupting was 1 minute, yet he lost focus 30 seconds in.

I read some other posts on this forum and I'm glad I'm not alone. Does it get better? It feels extremely unfair that I have to 'dumb down' my conversation or keep it short so he stays focused, even when I have a story I want to share or just want to tell him something important and include context. He's unmedicated and stopped getting therapy for his ADHD.