Infidelity, Ego & Power: What the Astronomer CEO Scandal Reveals About Why Men Cheat

Infidelity, Ego & Power: What the Astronomer CEO Scandal Reveals About Why Men Cheat“Cheating is not about sex—it’s about power, pain, and the ego’s desperate attempt to feel alive.”

You’ve probably seen the headlines by now: the CEO of a major tech firm—Astronomer—caught in a high-profile affair with his HR manager. It’s sensational. It’s messy. And for those of us who’ve lived through betrayal, it’s triggering.

Because whether your own experience played out in silence or splashed across the internet, the questions are the same:

Why did he cheat? What did I do wrong? Was I not enough?

Let me be clear: his affair was not about you, and neither was your partner’s. Cheating—especially when it comes from men in positions of power—is less about sex and more about ego, emotional immaturity, and fear. And scandals like this one help us shine a light on the hidden causes of infidelity, so you can stop spinning in self-blame and start reclaiming your power.

 

Why Successful Men Cheat (Hint: It’s Not About You)

As a lawyer and betrayal recovery coach, I’ve spent years digging beneath the surface. On my podcast, FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal. I don’t accept lazy answers like, “He wanted better sex,” or “The spark was gone.” Those are surface-level excuses. The deeper reasons are emotional, psychological, and often cultural.

And public affairs—like the Astronomer CEO’s—give us a real-time case study in what’s actually going on behind the scenes.

7 Hidden Drivers of Cheating (and How the CEO Scandal Fits Them All)1. The Escape Route

Sometimes, men cheat to end a relationship without the courage to say so. Confrontation terrifies them. So instead, they implode everything.

The Astronomer CEO knew what he was risking. Instead of resigning or addressing unhappiness openly, he created an exit door through destruction.

2. The Desperate Cling

Others cheat not to leave—but to stay. They’re desperate for connection, but too ashamed to ask for it or admit they’re struggling.

An affair with someone who works for him? That’s not just access—it’s a cry for validation from a place of disempowerment and shame.

3. Addiction & Dopamine

Cheating can become compulsive, like gambling. It’s not about the person—it’s about the high.

CEOs live for adrenaline. Power, risk, dominance. An affair? Just another hit of control and excitement when life feels empty or stale.

4. The Ego Stroke

Midlife hits. Career peaks or stalls. Suddenly, he feels invisible. So he seeks someone who makes him feel important again.

An HR manager calling him brilliant, needed, sexy? That’s ego balm—especially if he’s feeling irrelevant or insecure behind the scenes.

5. Emotional Immaturity

Many men never learn to feel, process, or communicate emotions. They act out instead of speaking up.

It takes maturity to say, “I’m struggling.” It takes zero maturity to hide behind sexts and hotel rooms.

6. Entitlement & Culture

Let’s be real: men in power are often told they deserve more—more money, more admiration, more sex. And if someone says no? They find someone who’ll say yes.

From JFK to CEOs today, society has rewarded powerful men for cheating. That doesn’t make it okay—it makes it predictable.

7. Narcissism & Personality Disorders

Some cheaters truly don’t care who they hurt. If they lack empathy or see people as tools for gratification, betrayal becomes easy—and frequent.

Whether the Astronomer CEO fits this category or not, many betrayed women are trapped in relationships with men who simply can’t or won’t feel remorse. And that’s a danger zone.

 

 

What This Means For You

If you’re spinning in self-doubt, let me say this loud and clear:

His betrayal is not a reflection of your body, your beauty, or your behavior. It’s a reflection of his brokenness.

The public scandal might be juicy gossip to some, but to us, it’s validation. Infidelity isn’t personal—it’s patterned.

Understanding the real reasons men cheat helps you stop asking, “What did I miss?” and start asking, “What do I need now?”

 

Your Healing Journey Begins Now

You don’t need to fix him. You don’t need to follow the tabloids or dissect his story.

You need to come home to you.

Instead of asking why he did it, ask:
What do I need right now?
What truth is this pain trying to reveal?
What part of me is ready to rise?

On FLAUNT!, I guide women through infidelity with the legal clarity, emotional tools, and spiritual support you need to recover and thrive.

Download your free Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com
Listen to Episode 50 for all 7 hidden causes of infidelity—and how to break free from them.

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