I wish I woulda________.

Forum: Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I am amazed how often now I have these thoughts run on in my mind.  What I learned with new perspective is this....

I wish I woulda...

• been MORE verbal.  So often I shut up so to not cause a scene or because he would raise his voice louder and meaner and use vulgarity to shut me up if I spoke my mind. We ended up not talking very often.

• not worked so hard trying to DO everything for us and the kids physically. I wish I woulda been more of a manager and less of a slave.

• not been so "nice".  I thought I was being supportive.  But I was too compromising and lost my good self that I once was. And he did not respect me.  I believe he wanted the fights.

• fought.

 "Over time, you'll inevitably end up resenting your partner because you've given up too much of yourself."