Shine Where You Stand: Strengths-Based Activities That Help Neurodiverse Children Thrive

“The problem isn’t that the child can’t do everything. The problem is that we keep asking them to be someone else.”

It started with a parent-teacher meeting. The list was long.

“He doesn’t finish work.”

“She struggles to sit still.”

“He zones out.”

“She talks too much.”

And there it was a trail of ‘doesn’t’, ‘can’t’, ‘too much’, and ‘not enough’.

I looked at the child whose name was on that report.

His eyes sparkled when he spoke about sea creatures.

He could name every type of shark, mimic their sounds, and describe how each one moved.

But that never made it to the school notes.

Because it wasn’t on the test.

Because it wasn’t the goal.

We are obsessed with deficits. We zoom in on what’s missing and forget what’s glowing.

It’s not intentional.

Parents want their child to succeed.

Teachers want their students to cope.

Shadow teachers want them to integrate.

But in the rush to “fix,” we often silence what’s already working.

So What Are Strengths-Based Activities?

They’re not rewards. They’re not distractions.

They are intentional, skill-building moments rooted in what a child already enjoys or is good at.

Let’s say a child loves lining up toys.

Rather than stopping the pattern, try a sorting game based on size or colour. You’re now working on categorisation, visual attention, and flexible thinking without needing a worksheet.

A child who hums constantly might benefit from a rhythm-based circle time, using claps, beats, and simple percussion. This is not just fun. It enhances listening skills, turn-taking, and emotional regulation.

A teen who draws comic strips could be encouraged to storyboard life skills. This taps into creativity while helping them rehearse real-world scenarios, handling conflict, making requests, or navigating a bad day.

A child who knows everything about trains might be more willing to learn maths if the questions involve carriages, tracks, and ticket prices.

It’s not about indulging interests.

It’s about using them to build bridges.

Why This Matters

When we lead with strengths, we’re not ignoring challenges. We’re equipping the child with the confidence and motivation needed to face them.

Imagine being asked to write essays when spelling feels like climbing a mountain. Now imagine writing a comic strip where spelling errors are gently corrected during the editing phase, not in red ink.

Which version helps you feel safe?

Which one makes you want to try again?

Try These Strengths-Based Activity IdeasStrength/InterestActivity IdeaWhat It BuildsLoves movementObstacle course with rule-followingMotor planning, sequencing, and executive functionPassionate about animalsCreate a pretend vet clinicRole play, empathy, and expressive languageEnjoys cooking with adultsMake picture recipesStep-by-step following, maths, and independenceFascinated with machinesBuild simple LEGO machines with instructionsPatience, problem-solving, and fine motor skillsConstantly asking “why?”Create an “investigation journal”Inquiry, persistence, curiosity

Don’t underestimate the power of play and curiosity. It is where actual learning lives.

To Every Shadow Teacher, Educator, and Parent Reading This

Start today.

Make a list. Not of what the child needs to “work on.”

But of what already lights them up.

Then ask yourself, ‘How can I stretch this joy just a little?’

How can I layer one small skill onto something they already love?

Because sometimes, the fastest way to teach something hard

It is to begin with something easy.

And sometimes, the fastest way to help a child feel capable

It is to let them feel seen.

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Let’s stop fixing. Let’s start building.

Because every child has strengths

We just need to look in the right direction.

Recommended Resources Hands-On Products

Here are some thoughtfully chosen tools that align beautifully with strength-based activities, perfect for reinforcing skills through play and interest:

Montessori Wooden Sorting Game : Encourages pattern recognition, categorisation, fine motor development and sustained focus all through a favourite pastime of lining and sorting toys. 4‑in‑1 Fidget Cube : A compact tool for channelling restlessness into calm concentration. Useful during transitions or guided tasks. Learning Resources Sensory Fidget Tubes : Encourages gentle tactile exploration and can be integrated into mindfulness or sensory-centred circle-time activities.

These products can be discreetly integrated into the day and tailored to each child’s specific interests and profile.

Online Courses

These free professional development courses provide frameworks for embedding strengths-based approaches smoothly into teaching and parenting:

Project‑Based Learning in Early Childhood Education (ECE) – Learn how to create meaningful, interest-driven projects that tap into each child’s innate strengths. Understanding the Autism Spectrum Disorder – Offers strength-centred practical strategies for nurturing social communication and sensory preferences. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy Training – Teaches how to draw on a child’s existing skills and successes to set positive, achievable goals. How to Integrate These in PracticeStart with interest + product: Set out the wooden sorting game during choice times, nodding to what the child already enjoys. Then quietly expand it into colour sorting or counting without pointing out mistakes.Blend tools with strategy: Use a fidget cube during transitions and follow up with a strengths-based conversation: “I noticed you moved the cube calmly. What was going through your head?”Upskill through learning: Complete one free course to build confidence in designing meaningful project-based or solution-focused learning around each child’s strengths. Final Thought

By combining playful, interest-based products with theory-backed training, you become the bridge that transforms everyday activities into confidence-building experiences. Use these tools not because a child is “struggling”, but because they are ideally suited to help a child shine and grow.