When a man walks ahead of you in public

Just saw a post on social media where someone pointed out what a red flag it is (most of the time) when a man constantly walks ahead of a woman when they’re out together in public and, honestly, YES!!!!!!!!!!

I’ll never forget the day it occurred to me that all the men in my life who have genuinely cared about me – and I’m including friends and family members as well – always walked beside me when we were out together in public. But those who did not have good intentions toward me always walked way ahead of me leaving me trailing behind them.

Among other red flags that were usually present in the latter scenarios, that action of that person leaving me trailing behind them just oozed with disrespect – I could literally feel the contempt in it. I think this all could also apply to a woman walking way ahead of a man as well.

While I’m here, some other red flags that stood out to me:

Making a big deal about being chivalrous (key phrase: big deal – chivalry is cute when it’s not suspicious ). For example, making a big deal about opening car doors for me or opening doors for me in general to the point of getting “offended” if I do those things for myself. I’ve been in situations with guys who would make me sit in the car and wait for them to come open the door for me because opening doors for myself was “not allowed”.  Me waiting in the car in literal agony because when I’m ready to get out of the car, I’m ready to get out of the car CHARLES

While this might sound ~ so luxurious ~ this show of being super chivalrous usually paralleled other not-so-chivalrous, abusive behavior at the same time.

I’m pretty sure I had another one but I can’t remember it anymore. It’s gone now. Goodnight.