Building Habits That Last with The North Star

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Building Habits That Last with The North Star

Dear Reader,

If you are an ambitious or talented person and you do want to do more with your life instead of simply earning enough to put food on the table, let me remind you of some fundamentals that you may have forgotten amidst your daily life-

If you want radical results in your life, you would have to put in radical efforts, and make radical decisions.

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You can’t sit and do everything the way everyone else is doing and hope to stand out in your achievements somehow. It’s okay to do what everybody else is doing, but to hope to feature in 30 under 30, without working hard for it or even trying would be just daydreaming without putting any efforts in real life.

When you put a deadline to your dream, it becomes a goal. And may this letter remind you to at least convert one or two of your dreams to real achievable goals.

In order to achieve any damn good thing in life, you would need two things-

discipline and consistency.

And these words do not have to remind you of the toxic hustle culture on X or brute masculine force portrayed by male coaches. Discipline and Consistency often reminds us of a tall and muscular man grinding in the gym but both there terms in reality can also be something beautiful and sacred.

Just the way you wake up and brush your teeth, and take a shower every single day, or apply sunscreen before stepping out - discipline and consistency can be incorporated as a simple habit that makes you one step closer to your life goal every single day.

I wouldn’t value these two qualities if I hadn’t lost them at some point of my life.

I remember in 2022, when I had recently quit my job, I had the discipline every morning to go for a walk near the lake, and then sit on my laptop for at least one hour to work on my novel and finish writing it in six months. I remember a senior writer telling me - I wish I had your discipline.

I didn’t understand his plight then. But now, as I grew older and further away from the corporate culture and routine, I understand it. It’s difficult to stick to one routine when you have a hundred hobbies and desires or when you are the boss of your own empire.

Willpower is a limited resource. And so when I want everything, thanks to overexposure to social media, I stick to my diet plan, I stick to my workout plan, I stick to my regular walks, I stick to my writing schedule, I stick to my social media posting, I stick to my cooking and cleaning, and one fine day, I break down. I give up on one thing after the other, and I lose all my momentum.

And that’s because somewhere to be consistent and disciplined required more of my efforts and energy. It required force. So I drain out and give up.

I then look back and see what worked for me in the past that made giant tasks look easy and brought me this far.

Here’s a better way to make simple habits in life -

Start with one. Not everything together. And then make it into an unforgettable habit by repeating it for at least 7 or 21 or 30 days based on what suits you. And then slowly add the others, one by one. One week after the other.

For instance, 10,000 steps is what I hit almost everyday without fail except on rare occasions.

Many people dream of writing a book someday but very few people sit every day looking at the blank page for every half an hour. This is what I suggested to one of my clients and now his book is already published and ready to be launched. Few months back, he wouldn’t even know how to finish writing 1000 words. And today his book is already published and he is preparing for his big day.

Change is simple if we take it one step at a time. And this is why they say - How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

A humbling reminder I used to put on my wall as a teenager was this quote- Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

It was for me to remind myself to write my poems or to study for the exams, even if I can score well without studying.

Discipline is gold and we must treat it like one.

Consistency is the polishing of our diamond and we must practice it regularly.

And while you build great habits for a better life, also remember your true North Star -

What are you living for?

What’s your life purpose?

What’s the purpose of your business or career growth or that hobby?

Where do you truly wish to see yourself in 5-10 years?

And pick up habits and action plans that take you towards your North Star, instead of steering you away from it.

Choose your battles by deciding your North Star. Social media will make you believe that you must be perfect at everything. But pick your top 3 based on what aligns with your actual goals.

For instance, when I was writing every day, it was because the North Star was to have my first novel published. I mean how could I let myself call myself a writer without having written a pure work of fiction above 50,000 words? I decided to at least have one full manuscript ready that I do not give up on me now matter how many times I am engulfed by self-doubts. It is now getting published and will be released in August 2025.

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Sometimes, when my client misses listening to my energy recording and come back to the session feeling disappointed with life, I remind them — You can’t skip taking a bath and expect yourself to not stink. Even if you manage a bad odor for the first three days, by the fourth day you are going to stink and would need a bath for sure.

This is the third week of sending you a newsletter every week and this time, I am planning to not stink in the upcoming weeks. :-)

BTW have you heard of the offer I have only for the months of June and July? Working with me 1:1 inside ‘What IEEFF? Inner Energy-work for Emotional and Financial Freedom’ can come for as low as 3lacs now.

Here’s how- if you want to work on a goal that’s common with your friend or spouse or sibling, say ‘dating more confidently’ or ‘improving your marriage’ or ‘10Xing your business revenue’ or ‘stepping up in your career’, and if you are open to be coached together, you both get a 50% off, and you pay 3L INR for 5months with 12 sessions that take around 90 minutes each.

For individuals, the fee is 6L INR.

And the usual price of mentorship for a full year is 12L INR with 40 sessions. However, till July end, I am offering these slots too at 10L INR.

I only work with a handful of people every year, and if you wish to work with me and promise to be disciplined and consistent towards your goal, or at least commit to achieving it, we can talk. Call me at +91 99717 33664 or DM me on my Instagram.

Like I said, radical action leads to radical results. And if your goal is radical, let being coached to bust your subconscious blocks and break your limiting beliefs be your radical action.