The Pressure To Be In A Relationship

One day, when I was in high school, I was having a conversation with someone when they suddenly asked me if I had a crush on anyone. I thought about it for a moment and, to my own surprise, I realized that I didn’t. I actually had no desire in that moment to even think about boys. Between being busy with school, things that were going on in my personal life and whatever else was on my mind, boys were just not a priority – or even a thought.

When I told this person that I didn’t have a crush on anyone, they looked at me like I had fifteen heads. Whatever the reason for this look, it made me feel incredibly self-conscious. So from that moment on, I made it my business to always have a crush on someone – even when I didn’t. This led to disastrous (and ridiculous) results .

In the early years of my adulthood, I pressured someone into what I now don’t even consider to have been a serious relationship just because everyone else seemed to have someone and I didn’t want to be left out. Now, in the present, so far away mentally, spiritually and even physically from those two phases of my life, I no longer feel (and will not tolerate being) pressured into thinking that I have to be in a relationship for any reason if that is not where God has placed me.

People – particularly in the body of Christ – need to leave more room for the fact that, for many people, being single isn’t a problem or a devastating state to be in. In fact, some people are called by God to singleness.

I’m waiting for God to bring the person that He has for me into my life and until then, I’m very content with being single – and there’s nothing wrong with that ! Especially in this day and age, the last thing anyone should be doing is pressuring anyone to be in a relationship just because. It’s just not worth it and it never ends well.