Forgiveness?

Forum: Negotiation and Setting Boundaries

My ex texts he intends to ask forgiveness when we meet at the counselor in a few weeks. 

It’s sad, but I’m afraid he’s trying to  manipulate me, because he wants something from me. He’s always said things to please others, regardless of whether he means it. Sooner or later, he will scream at you that none of it was true.

Is this about forgiveness for the past? I guess I can accept how he’s treated me, even though it’s incredibly painful. It’s there, clear as day. He probably couldn’t do better because of his mental illness. The problem is, how do you trust someone ever again who hasn’t stood by his word in critical moments? Who has been chaotic, dishonest, aggressive and with no apparent logic except his shifting emotions? There seems to be no core. How do you co-parent with them, or be civil around them? 

I can’t think of any interaction we’ve had the last few years where it hasn’t all been about me giving out, exhausting myself, and him leaning heavily on me. 

I won’t have any more of it. The heart palpitations and blood pressure and extreme stress he’s caused me cannot continue. I prefer to be miserable on my own. 

If he says he’s sorry, why should I believe it?