Radical acceptance

Forum: Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I'm really struggling at the moment (hence the 2x different posts) but it's not so much sadness or grief or anything...it's moreso around trying to wrap my head about radical acceptance. 

If I think/believe my spouse's (ADHD, 48 yo, dx 3 years ago) behaviour and actions are unnacceptable and I don't like them and don't want to live like this, but I'm practicing radical acceptance, which means that who is right now is WHO HE IS and I need to accept it...... where does that put me? 

Doesn't this mean that if who he is showing me to be, is who he is and wants to be accepted as, but I find it unacceptable...isn't the simplest answer is that we shouldn't be together anymore.... right? 

Like, it feels like it's so complicated and scary but when you strip it back to the basics...i mean, i tihnk I know the answer???